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The Spanking World

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I wonder how many of my readers also belong to Fetlife? For those of you who are unaware, Fetlife has a huge spanking following and the community tends to gather around certain groups, though it also allows participants the ability to explore other fetish avenues should they so choose.

So why am I mentioning it here? Well, I want to give everyone the opportunity to peruse the group that I started on Fetlife which I called THE SPANKING WORLD – GOOD VERSUS BAD

At this time the group has an awesome following of 460 members, but most importantly we have discussions that are thought provoking and they draw dozens, sometimes hundreds of responses. Every day when I log on in the morning, it is my first port of call to see what people are talking about.

Now I’m not here begging for members to join up, our group doesn’t need that, it pretty much sells itself. What I do want though is for people to check it out and read some of the discussions that we have. The group doesn’t opt for namby pamby discussions, we offer challenging topics designed to be thought provoking. Just recently the group was criticized for being too negative, that our topics dwell on too many negative issues, so this week I put that out there to the members of the group to see whether they felt the group was too negative and perhaps a detriment to newbies in the spanking scene.

As of this writing, to date there have been 60 responses and not a single one has said it was negative, quite to the contrary actually, the feedback that the question received, in many cases, it was stated that it was the BEST group about spanking on Fetlife. There isn’t anything sugar coated, in fact I, myself, have been in the minority on a number of topics. And at no point did I feel the need to demean another person’s view by regressing in age and chanting BLAH, BLAH, BLAH or YADA, YADA, YADA.

The numbers speak for themselves, and that is why I have no problem posting this here because we are going to get new members through word of mouth anyway. Currently there are 460 members and each topic garners HUGE responses, makes me even wonder why I asked the question in the first place when the answer was so obvious. Why not have a look at THE SPANKING WORLD –GOOD VERSUS BAD and see what you think yourself. At the very least you will be able to read some awesome discussions. Just click on the red area where it says the group title and you will be taken to the group.

ERICA SCOTT said it best when we talked about the group, and these were her words:

“I don’t trust overly cheerful people anyway. Take your sunshine and rainbows and blow them up someone else’s a#$.”

That is exactly how I feel as well. On one topic my views were seen as disgusting by a couple of members, but you know what, I put on my big boy pants and took the comments and respected where they had come from. Blowing smoke up someone’s ass has never been a big fetish of mine!

Have a look and decide for yourself though, there is never a right or wrong answer and everyone’s opinion is as valid as the next person’s. Occasionallly we have to deal with a person who feels that their opinion is holier than thou and is the only one that matters, but those are very few and far between.

Now in other news, I am so totally excited that the first two of my fantasy football drafts occur in just a week’s time. I know this has nothing to do with spanking but fantasy football is a major hobby of mine. Over the years I have won four championships in various leagues and I love the bragging rights. You know what is really funny, in the four competitions that I have won, on three of the four occasions that I was victorious I was STIFFED out of the grand prize!! Makes you wonder why I even play when I have only had a 25% success rate in receiving what I won. The bottom line though is that I love the game as a hobby. Now I should state that one of the three mentioned above did provide me with half of the prize, and it really wasn’t the league’s fault. The owner who had won the previous year took the championship trophy and never came back, therefore I didn’t get the trophy to brag with.

So for the second half of the year, as always, I will be juggling spanking and fantasy football.

Now over the last few weeks I have been working closely with a certain little minx and we have been devoting countless hours to a new website that will be launched by the end of the month. The downside to that is that my own blogs are suffering because of it. Fear not though because tonight I am devoting my time to my own sites and giving them all much needed updates. I’m also going to update the sites to automatically update over the next month, so the picture sites will all get frequent updates over the next few weeks. This particular site I will update as I go.

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Back From FMS

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Lots of tales to come from a fantastic party, especially about my roommate and incredibly naughty and well spanked niece, Missy. She got a bad girl, a good girl, spankings for forgetting her door key, spanked to a story, spanked to sleep and even, yes, Uncle Richard stepped up, a punishment spanking that she didn’t like at all.

Only one shoot at this party with Ten, played with all of my dear SSC friends and London Tanners friends, took part in some skits, played on a total of 8 hours sleep for an entire weekend, does that give you an idea of how much fun we had? Congratulations to Larry and Amy and the entire FMS crew for a wonderful party, I will be back next year.

Finally, here is what my hand looks like today. It was a build up, but the shoot with Ten cracked it finally. I then played for the rest of the night picking up new cracks with each spanking 🙂

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Another Year has Passed

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{My Internet is still down and won’t be up until Saturday at the earliest, which really blows because all of my picture sites need updating. This is the only site that I can access from work}

It was a very good one as well, in fact I would be hard pressed to think of another point in my life where I am so happy and content with whom I am right now. Certainly the past year was better than the year before when thoughts of mortality went through my mind a lot due to my Brother’s passing.

Part of this renewed vitality in the scene has been the direct result of Fetlife. When I first started in the online world back in 1999 I only ever had one goal in mind, and it was a goal that I didn’t think for one minute would be possible. That goal was simply to meet a fellow spanko and have a play date, Funny really, isn’t it? When I first started I didn’t think the online world was real, I just thought it was an extended fantasy of what the 20 years prior to that had been for me, save for a sporadic spanking session with whomever I was dating at the time. When I actually realized that it was possible to meet someone all I ever wanted was one spanking pic, which I got, but who would have ever known that I now have 1000’s of spanking pics that I am in.

It has taken many years to become comfortable with who I am and what I want, and even if I don’t have certain parts of that as of now, I am more comfortable with who I am to get what it is that I am looking for. A lot of soul searching went on to turn around from wanting to please others and what they want, to making it about what WE want, my needs are just as important.

When a lot of us started in online discussions it was on the old SIN network, and I met more people from there than I have ever met anywhere else. It is something that I sorely missed and it is why I love Fetlife so much. Taking part in meaningful discussions is something that I love to do, I think you get to learn about and discover some wonderful people through online discussions. That is how I have met most of the people in my life, through making a connection through the written word. You see how people act and behave and you develop a relationship with that person. Nine times out of ten, the way a person presents themselves in the written word is actually a true reflection of who they are as a person. Perhaps it is more so because they don’t have to deal with the horrible social anxiety when they are doing so through the written word.

As we develop in our own lives we work out what it is that works for us and what doesn’t. I’m not going to say that it is easy all of the time, but through experience you learn an awful lot about yourself, what works for you and what doesn’t. One reason for the spanking world group is that it allows me to present these thoughts to a wide variety of people and indeed learn from the views of others. For the most part it is nothing but positive, but I do encounter negatives along the way that I believe help to shape you.

The current annoyance that I am finding is the “Unwanted House Guest”. I’m guessing at times we either do, or did, become that person whether we wanted to or not. Who is the unwanted house guest? That’s the person who involves themselves in your scene when you are playing online, the one who feels they have claimed some right in interject when someone they know or are close to is engaging in playful banter online with someone other than them.

It could be subtle, joining in a conversation with the focus being turning the discussion into one between them and the person they are targeting, as they have done on 50 other threads on the board. It could be jealousy, making sure that you are aware that you are bantering with someone’s property, like a chaperone on a date they are going to monitor your every move and interject when they feel it is needed. And then there is the director, the one who contacts you personally to tell you how the person you are engaging with likes to play.

There are many girls in my life who play in the various groups, but unless it is a group thing like the SSC, I leave them alone to play their own scene the way that they want to play it. That scene isn’t with me, it doesn’t involve me, and I should have no interest in disturbing someone else’s scene. I have my own scenes, the ones that I build, I don’t need to be involved in someone else’s scene to feel a part of it or to feel wanted. Do you think it doesn’t happen? Have a look around, just watch someone try and play with another person and see who comes in to take part. Are they coming in to enjoy the fun, or are they coming in wearing their ownership badge and carrying a leash? You may be surprised as to just how little freedom some people have to be able have an online play session without someone coming in and interjecting, like they do on any other discussion involving the object of their desire.

Likewise, I don’t want to be another top’s fodder when they are playing with someone. It is like the back seat driver at a party, the one who is going to use your name and your scene to inform someone that they are going to do it better than you did.

The positives far outweigh the negatives though. The ability to find good people through discussions has already happened, though, as of today, I haven’t actually played with anyone whom I have met exclusively on Fetlife. It is close, in fact I would say it is only a technicality that it hasn’t happened yet. Both Missy Doright and Beth Eisley I met at Shadowlane, albeit only through a brief discussion with each. I didn’t actually get to know either of them properly until I joined Fetlife, so other than the technical side of things that I had actually spoken with each, I did in fact get to know them on Fetlife.

It is early days in ‘The Spanking World’ yet, but there are already ladies who have caught my eye in the way that they present themselves, people who I would one day like to get to know and people who I feel pretty sure that I would get along with in real life. There will be more people like that who come on board as time goes on I know, but Windsor is making a list and checking it twice.

So am I happy? You bet I am happy right now. I have some wonderful people in my life and I am meeting more and more. Also, I have come to the point in my life where I know what it is that makes me happy, I don’t need to compromise that in order to have fun. If someone’s idea of fun is different to mine, cool, knock yourself out, I will be looking for the play partners that make me happy. There is nothing wrong with trying something to expand yourself as a person, nothing at all, but if you try an approach and you don’t like it well nothing gained, nothing ventured, you always have what works for you to fall back on.

Sometimes people have a desire to only please the other person that they are playing with, but your own needs are just as important. I think you will find that through communication, compromise and an understanding, the both of you can get what it is that you are striving for. The focus you need to have though is what is happening between you two, not what is happening between the person you are playing with and a third party, that is their scene, not yours, just focus on your own and you will have a blast.

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The Ultra Popular Top

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The above picture was created by the genius known as Radagast.

Here goes a Windsor ego post you may be thinking, lol, you are wrong though. Over on Fetlife I created a discussion group that has quickly become my favorite online visit each day. There are so many wise people who offer their opinions and the discussions that people start are really good, well worth a visit if you want —–> The Spanking World

It was during one of these discussions that someone referred to me as an Ultra Popular Top in what I determined was an attempt to devalue my opinion. A reply came back that it was written because I was coming across as arrogant, so I accept that explanation. The unfortunate part though is you just know how bad my girls are. It took less than ten minutes before the explosion took place and I garnered a new nickname that has stuck, UPT (Ultra Popular Top). Everyone is having fun with it and Rad was awesome in coming up with this book cover, kudos my friend.

Overall it has been a very tough week though, I’m going mental trying to get everything ready for the FMS party, the DVD’s, presentations cards and video editing, let alone the Dana Specht interview that I still have to edit, and I have to finish up the Missy story 🙂

I have also had to deal with anger issues this week, something that I am normally in complete control of, I mean, I was seething. I’m not going to go into details aside from the fact that what was said about a former play partner of mine, a girl who to this day holds a very special place in my heart, I found to be so revolting that I had to build myself a support network just to prevent myself from exploding. Thankfully I didn’t, instead I dealt with it the best way that I knew how. This is where it is great to have my friends who were a big support and a voice of reason. On the positive side, it also probably brought my relationship with the girl even closer as well.

Okay, I said I wasn’t go to display my ego, but, just in case you will think there is something wrong with me if I didn’t, you can always head over to the beautiful Beth’s blog and read her report. Beth is such a classy lady and it was an absolute honor to have the chance to play with her.

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In Thought

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I’m just sat back here reflecting on times as my interest in spanking related activities is on the low end at the moment. I’m actually hoping the timing of the cycle will be perfect.

When I was a kid and had no understanding of why I felt like I did, in the 1970’s we had the weekly comments where someone was always getting spanked. Teacher’s Pet, Minnie the Minx, Keyhole Kate, Fuss Pot, the list was endless.

In the late 70’s/early 80’s it was the bi-monthly trips to London to buy spanking mags and go to the spanking picture house on Dean Street I believe it was.

Moving to America I discovered Kinematics, and quickly I stocked up on every magazine and video I could acquire, watching them over and over and over again. A number of these old videos I have since acquired on DVD as they were an important part of my growth. And the came the Internet.

Now I have no complaints about the Internet at all, the friendships I have made would never have been possible, and far from being someone who I see in the scene and are nothing more than a casual acquaintance, these people have become my friends for many years and more keep being added. It is no different to people who once lived close to me but no longer do, they are still friends, and I see them less than the people who I met through the spanking world.

When the Internet started I think I lived on a 24/7 spanking diet, stories, pictures, videos, discussions, meets etc, etc;

As time has gone on though, I find that I am less and less interested in certain aspects of Internet time. Now I still love pictures and think I always will, but other than some historical mags that I bought at Shadowlane last year, I haven’t bought a mag in years. Same goes for videos, whenever I join a website it is for the pictures. The fantasies that play out in my mind are far greater than watching someone else’s presentation of a fantasy. It can and does work at times though, I am an ardent Shadowlane fan, and while I tend to prefer the older SL videos, I will still buy them from time to time. I also have a fondness for Pacific Force’s videos though I think I pretty much have all I want from that site. In fact at the Shadowlane party last year I had discovered that Tony Elka had a very early digital download that was never released on film. As I couldn’t download it he was gracious enough to put it on a DVD for me. Now how about that for service, eh? I might be the only person with that DVD 😉

The more that I have been online, the more my boundaries have changed. Stories rarely interest me anymore, I watch clips on spanking tube but honestly, it is nothing more than a quick skip to see if it might interest me.

Perhaps the novelty of the Internet has finally worn off after a decade because now I am more interested in real people and what their story is. I’m probably in the minority, but I also want to hear a person’s story, which is why I interview people. I would much rather take part in a discussion than read a story, even if I think someone is talking out of their arse.

When I look between 1979 when I first walked into the Janus bookshop, and 2011 and the Internet, my spanking world has changed dramatically. Do I like it? Oh without a doubt, I love that I get to meet so many people in real life. Do I miss the old days? Yes, parts of it I do, I’m stuck on 80’s films and they aren’t made like that anymore.

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The World Through The Eyes Of Richard Windsor

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Today I am going to take a little different approach and head in a vanilla direction for the most part. That may not please the guys who will be looking for the visual stimulation that my blogs normally represent, but it is one of those rare times that I want to welcome people into my world a little bit.

As everyone who has followed this blog is aware, for the last 14 months I have changed my lifestyle to a more healthy one and with that has come the opportunity to lose some weight. The original motivation for this of course is well known by now, my little Brother passed away at the awful age of 41 years old and while it was a blood clot that was his ultimate demise, I don’t think that any of us kids ourself for one minute to know that it was actually his obesity that killed him. When he passed he was well over 400lbs.

A lot of communication that I get in private emails is to do with the weight loss and what are perhaps some tips that I can give to people. This isn’t easy because we all have our own motivations and what may be easy for one person is not as easy for another. In a nutshell though, here are some of the things that I did to assist me in losing weight.

First and foremost, I had to dedicate myself completely to an entire make over. The first thing to go was going out drinking. Now, I am not professing to being a teetotaller, in the right situation I will enjoy a few drinks with friends, but the social life I was living with the Rockabilly crowd involved copious amounts of alcohol. For a whole year I stopped going to shows because of this and only recently have I started to attend them again. The difference now however is that when I attend a Rockabilly show I simply do not drink. You will still see me having a drink or two at spanking parties, and if the environment calls for it, I may even have a party styled event at a spanking party. It is different there though because I am happy at spanking parties.

On the food front, that was also a mammoth change in what I had to do. Over the year I have learnt that you are not going to win every day, or even every week. The key to success however is just not giving up, if you have 2 bad days, or three bad days, don’t worry about it, start right back over on the fourth day and get back on track. I have been seeing a dietitian since I started getting healthier and I see her every three weeks, I can guarantee to you right now that not every visit has been a successful one. The goal though is to persevere, even when you have a setback. Quite honestly I can’t list everything here that I changed about my diet, but if I can give you a lamen version it would be this. Junk food has been completely eliminated from my diet, even during those bad times when you are eating more than you should, it is better if that food is grapes than it is ice cream. Greek Yogurt has been a staple of my diet, eating regularly, snack foods consist of bran or wheat crispbread, and during the day it is salads or soups for lunch. The whole diet had to change completely and it requires the dedication to follow through with it.

Most important however is this, you simply have to exercise!! If you don’t burn more calories than you consume, then quite frankly you aren’t going to lose weight. It doesn’t have to be strenuous, what you need to have happen is for your metabolism to continue to be active. Some days are different than others, but here is a typical exercise day for me. First thing in the morning I ride my exercise bike for 5 minutes, when I get home from work I walk the 25 minutes after I exit the train as opposed to taking the bus, and later that night I do the exercise bike for ten more minutes. That is it!! Some rare days I don’t exercise at all and some days I do much more than I stated above, the key to all of it though is never give up completely, if you miss a few days then get right back on it and start over. Like I said, not every month has been a successful one, but having the motivation and dedication to persevere, I have so far lost 62lbs in 14 months.

Here is a picture of the progress so far, and it is the first time that I am ever allowing this pic to be seen. Why is that? Because until now I have been nothing but embarrassed for the pic to be seen by anyone. Here I am at my heaviest alongside how I look today.

When I set out on this path I didn’t have a specific goal in mind, and really I still don’t, however, I do set small goals. The latest one was to get to the weight I weighed in 1987, and last weekend I achieved that. The next goal is to get to under 200lbs, something that I have never been as far as I can remember. That is just 10lbs away now, and I WILL achieve that by the time the Party rolls around. After that the goal will be 175, and as that will only be 3lbs away from having lost 100, then the goal after that will be 172 🙂 Plug away guys, and if I can offer any of you some moral support, just shoot me an email.

When I post on any spanking related website, I am doing so as the character, Richard Windsor. Now the character of course is a true representation of who I am, for better or worse, but because it is all one dimensional and geared towards spanking, the whole of the person never really comes out. People who actually know me in person know that I am an affectionate guy, perhaps a little standoffish at first, but I am also one of those rare guys who is genuinely touched by certain events. Acts of kindness resonate within me like you wouldn’t believe, and I am not just talking material kindness, just simple pleasantness in a person. I genuinely adore kind and thoughtful people and I am totally attracted to caring individuals. To go along with that, I am also a sensitive person.

Many of you know this and many of you don’t, but I have spent my entire life (until my current job) working with people with disabilities. In fact some of my closest friends were kids that I once counseled at summer camp who became an important part of my life. So obviously one of my loves in life is the human spirit. This next piece I am bringing to you may not be new to you, but I discovered it online and I have become fascinated since. It is a horrible story in its origin, it continued to be bad when the person became more of an experiment than a real person, and one incident that followed regressed the girl back to her original state, but throughout it all I couldn’t help but feel a deep bond with this girl and what she came through. There isn’t a fairytale ending to this, and I am currently reading a book on her life, but this video moved me emotionally and if it moves you, perhaps we have something in common. Please be aware that the following video is not pleasant and can be very moving.

Okay, I wanted to write more, but I have had enough for now. Perhaps one day I will continue on this theme, but hopefully from this small exert you can see inside Richard Windsor’s mind a little better 🙂

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And Disaster Has Struck!!

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{{Much better update —- All may not be lost after all. Now while Google has deleted my account and all the pictures along with it, as well as all blogs under that account. The spanking pics blog was created initially for a friend who I was trying to make some money for, therefore it hasn’t been deleted as it was not created under my google account. So while 3 years worth of pictures have been lost, the blog itself is still active, even though it is skeleton bare. I may salvage something from this after all}}

Woe is me, woe is me 🙂

This could be a word of warning to you all, and it is something that I foresaw a few years ago. Last night I received a message from Google telling me the old spanking galleries blog had been deleted for a violation of the terms of service. No big deal really as I had already moved the site to my hosting company months ago.

Or was it a big deal though? Unfortunately, it was!!

Last week I considered transferring my spanking pics site over to my own host, but, based on the ridiculous hits it was getting from google I decided against it, being that it was up for 4 years already. That might be a mistake in the long run because when I logged in last night to do the transfer, based on the fact that they had deleted yet another blog of mine, guess what, my google account has been deleted as well!! Trust me, that is the worst thing of all because not only were my blogs hosted through that one account, but 4 years worth of statistics on ALL sites were also under that account.

The spanking pics site was updated in advance to run through the end of the month, so I figured I might have some time to sort the problem out, but when I went to the site today I can see a disaster happening. Nearly all of the pics in the archive have been deleted 🙂 4 years worth of work down the toilet!! I have sent an email to Google but I don’t expect any success, though I would be happy if they let me transfer the site to my own hosting company. The worst part is the stats though, that account tracked all of my sites and has done for 4 years.

A few years ago I predicted this would happen on google/blogger which is why I decided to buy my own domain for my own site, I’m really happy I did that now. Though, I have also noticed that my own sites have been reported to McAfee and I have a yellow warning tab tagged to my sites. A more skeptical man might think that someone is out to get him 😉

The bottom line is, I have to accept that I am probably not going to get these sites back, nor am I likely to get my google account back so I would have lost 4 years worth of statistics. If I am unable to get the site back I will try and have the skeleton of it removed, and as the spanking universe site has run stagnant, I will turn the spanking universe into the new spanking pics site.

It could also be karma because I had considered writing a post today about ‘Accepting responsibility for ones own actions in the spanking community, and the problems it causes when one doesn’t accept responsibility for their own actions’. But, as you can see, maybe the karma gods gave me something else to deal with to keep me from running my mouth 🙂

Be very careful with your own blogger sites guys, all of mine have been destroyed. Just last week I got the first notice that my original site, the blogger one I had before this site, had been deleted, even though I hadn’t used it for nearly 3 years. Then yesterday I had another site deleted and my gmail account erased. It can happen, and hopefully google will tell me why if they answer my query.

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Hate My Haters Day

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For the fifth year running, Bonnie over at Bottom Smarts is running her ‘Love Our Lurkers’ day. If you are a blogger then feel free to check it out.

Me on the other hand, well, as everyone knows, it isn’t something that I personally like doing, HOWEVER, based on recent events I did tell Bonnie that I would take part but with a twist.

I don’t want to hear from my lurkers who enjoy this site, the numbers speak for themselves, what I want to hear is from the people who detest me!! As mentioned earlier in the week, some gutless wonder decided to confront me, well, of course they did this without me possibly knowing who it could be (just so that you know, I did work out who it was!!!). So it gave me an idea!!

A while back I stumbled across a post by Doonstar which read as such…..

{{Last, but not least, check out http://oldspankingpics.com–  a spin-off from www.richard windsor.com but, thankfully, without his interminable solipsistic rants.}}

Now aside from the fact that it never prevented him, and still doesn’t, from ripping off everyone’s pics, it did alert me to the fact that there are probably a lot of people who, for one reason or another, really don’t like me. So here is your chance, here is your opportunity to let loose and I will even make it easier for you all. I don’t want to hear all the goody-goody comments, I want to know what you REALLY think of me 🙂

Now, as experienced earlier in the week, it might be easier for people to remain anonymous because they lack the guts to confront me, so here are some opportunities for you to slam me. No matter where it is posted I will add it to this post 🙂

If you wish to remain anonymous you can create a fake profile on Fetlife and my profile is listed below. You don’t even have to add me as a friend, you can just send me a message from your fake account and let me have it.

Richard Windsor’s Fetlife Profile

There are lots of other places you can contact me, but Fetlife is easiest because from there, there is no way I can check the IP address. This post won’t be on top for long because I have a great picture story coming once I get approval from the girl in the pics.

Now not for nothing, when Doonstar posted what he did he at least did so using his own name. While I may not agree with his opinions on disrespecting or demeaning women, well, let me rephrase that, I believe women of course should be respected, I just disagree that someone should write about his readers not demeaning women and then posting pictures of women on all fours with some guy’s finger wedged firmly in their asshole, but that is just subjective, I do at least respect the fact that he made it clear that he doesn’t like me.

As I said, any comments sent to me on Fetlife, no matter how outrageous, I will add to this post. I’m looking forward to this 🙂

Here are the first 3 just to get you kickstarted 🙂

From Doonstar: Last, but not least, check out http://oldspankingpics.com–  a spin-off from www.richard windsor.com but, thankfully, without his interminable solipsistic rants.

From kan***and on fetlife:

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Maybe if you weren’t such a stuck up snot at SL, people wouldn’t either like you (kiss your fat ass) or like most, think you’re a stuck up ass who couldn’t bother to say hello to anyone unless you thought you would get something from them!

Yeah, best to live in your own fantasy world and think you’re all that. Those who watch you, know what a loser you are.

No, I’ve never met you, I doubt you’d even bother to say “hello” to me. I’ve seen you at several events and watched you enough to know, now there’s a fellow who thinks he’s So much better than everyone else.

2) 

I DID say hello to you. It took courage for me to do so and you were abrupt and had no interest in saying anything other than nodding you head. Yeah, great fellow. But then, I’ve heard that about you. And I’m sure you have no interest in acknowledging anyone over 30 anyway.

From John Timms: (Spelling errors included :-))

Back to you being a cowboy. You might have been away too long to remember but there are many older chaves in this country who dress like you, I see at least 5 in the small town I live in most days. So no thinking outside the box, just run of the mill.

 A hat does not define character you have that with your great west country accent.

 Why does a bloke frmm swindon dress like a wanna be cowboy. No punch line . That is funny ini itself

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The 30 Plus Club

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It is going to be a busy day today!!

Last night was the party and having suffered a bit of post party drop following last week’s trip to Georgia, it couldn’t have come at a better time. Normally at parties I play very little, but last night I was determined to let myself go a bit. Funny thing is though, following the party I had to do some math in my head.

Most of you read the post below where I got the message of hate, well it wasn’t the only message that I received, it of course the hate continued. The crux of the matter “seemed” to be that I have a penchant for playing with “The pretty young girls” who are all under 30, therefore any lady not fitting that mold I ignore. So it did get me to thinking, in the last week I have spanked 14 different ladies and off the top of my head 12 of them were over 30 years old. The other two girls were in their mid to late 20’s.

So where does that thought process come from? I believe their are two reasons for it. Firstly, it is the pictures that people see of me online. Nearly all of my pics feature pro models (not all pics, just most of them) and they feature girls who are comfortable enough with their bodies to share pics. Now I’m not throwing a blanket over it because each person is different, but for the most part these girls tend to be the ‘cute young things’ who allow their pictures to be taken. There is nothing I can do about that, it is a fact that I have no control over.

Secondly, the other reason why there is a belief that I have a penchant for ‘Pretty young girls”? Simple, I’m a guy, there is some truth to the statement. Quite honestly though, I don’t think the problem is mine, I play with beautiful ladies over 30 all the time. With the younger girls there is a certain fantasy element, we all have them and as a red blooded male I am no different. Also, I’m single, and of course I am looking for my own play partner. The truth of the matter is, most of the beautiful ladies over 30 are already spoken for.

Have I been guilty of thinking with my dick over my head, without a shadow of a doubt I have. I do take ownership of it though and while I try and be respectful, there are occasions where I need to be grounded. It is one of the biggest reasons that I love Sarah Thorne so much, she isn’t afraid to give me a few home truths every now and then. That is one of the big problems though, I am actually very easy to talk to. If someone has a problem with something I am doing, chances are I am also fully aware of it, I just need to be slapped around the head from time to time. Nobody is perfect and I am no different, if I see a ‘pretty young thing’ at a spanking party, do I want to spank her? Come on, let’s be honest here, of course I do. What gets overlooked though is that I enjoy spanking beautiful ladies of all ages and I am totally blessed there because I get that opportunity.

Now because I have no idea who my hater is, there is a chance that she was at the party last night. Was there fuel for her fire last night? Yes, there was, but without reading the whole book there is a possibility that her opinion of me last night didn’t change. Why do I mention the ‘whole book’? Let me explain.

At last nights party there was a ‘pretty young thing’ around me for a large part of the evening and to the untrained eye it may have enhanced the view that I ‘have a penchant for pretty young girls’. Now last night I played with 5 beautiful young ladies, was the ‘pretty young thing’ one of them? No, she wasn’t!! All of the beautiful ladies that I played with last night were over 30 years of age.

What did the untrained miss in that picture? I don’t often say this and perhaps it is very egotistical of me, but it is what it is and I am a very honest person. There are certain ‘pretty young things’ that I have the respect of, and despite the thinking that I have a penchant for them, it is ACTUALLY the reverse, they have a penchant for me. Not in the sense that I am all that and a bag of chips, no, not at all, despite popular belief I rarely play with these girls at parties. There are a few girls, last nights one included, that I have an understanding with. The understanding is simple, if you are feeling under pressure and you don’t know how to handle it, just simply say come on over to me and if you have to, simply say ‘I have to ask Richard first’. Is it cocky and egotistical? Perhaps, I’m not sure, but it is the protective nature that I have. I also have the respect of the girls that they know I am a safe zone.

It serves as a dual purpose, the girl doesn’t have to deal with the feeling that people think she is stuck up because she isn’t quite ready for her 8th spanking back to back, and for the girl she knows she can go somewhere if she is feeling under pressure. Like I said, is there some egotism involved? Perhaps people may perceive that, but in reality it is just me being a good guy. Bottom line, despite what anyone may think, I didn’t play with the girl last night nor did I even suggest it.

There were some girls I spanked though so let me tell you about that. First of all I had made a promise to FBG that she would be my first spanking of the night. Now I don’t want to downplay the session by mentioning a ‘first’, but it is a fact so I have to share it. FBG was the first Latina that I have ever spanked!! Now I have mentioned before that I have swatted a Latina, but I have never had one over my knee. Well the gorgeous FBG became that first girl and what a fun session we had. You know what I found funny though, as the night went on the naughty young miss became ever so cheeky, almost like she was begging for another spanking. Well now my Latina cherry has been popped, you can bet there is another spanking coming, perhaps as soon as next Saturday young lady!!

The next session was a first spanking given to a long time friend. This was a LONG session and it was the type of session I love, feisty and hot. The young lady in question is an Australian girl and not having played with her before I didn’t know what to expect. Well, having spanked her I can assure you that I look forward to the second session. This was the only session that I did that there was a reason for, the young lady in question just can’t keep her hands to herself and she did something to me in April that she had yet to pay for. Like I said it was LONG and boy can this girl fidget with the best of them. She even said to me afterwards that some guys she has played with don’t like the battle, personally, I love it. Trust me when I say that I had to earn giving her the spanking, she fought and clawed and my left hand was as busy as my right controlling her hands. I LOVE sessions like that, nothing out of control but I had to overpower her. I’m just glad I had a sturdy shirt on because that got a good workout as well. It was an awesome session and I look forward to another one with this young lady, it was right up my alley. She not only got a hand spanking but I also took my belt off and also used a small paddle on her. We probably played for a good 20 minutes.

We were running out of time and I still had promises to fulfill. I hate to cut anything short but my good friend, lil_brat, totally understood and she did also say that her butt was about 90% done anyway. Normally we have a continuous roleplay where she is the naughty schoolgirl, but we didn’t play it this time, it was just a very short over the knee hand spanking done through some laughter. We will catch up on the ongoing naughty schoolgirl at the next party. I do offer my thanks to lil_brat for being so understanding that I still had a session to do even though the curtains were being broken down.

Lastly I got to play with another diamond of a girl. It had probably been two years since I last spanked her, and while we couldn’t do a long session because the night was over and everyone was packing up, lil_brat stood guard on our curtain to allow us the time to get a Singapore caning in. Thanks lil_brat 🙂

Miss_chief a couple of years ago was also a first for me, she was the first black girl I had ever spanked, and to date she is the still the only one. Just recently I started a thread on fetlife about ethnicity’s that resulted in someone accusing me of playing the race card, lol. I had to politely point out that I am WHITE and that a good number of replies had come from minorities who had also agreed with me that there does seem to be a lack of ethnic diversity in the spanking world. Anyway, being caned was a relatively new thing for Misss_chief, so we started out light and she directed me as to when I could step it up a bit. By the end she was getting 50% strokes that changed her giggles into knee buckling yelps 🙂 Yet another awesome session and the perfect way to finish the night. When we were done and we emerged from behind the curtain, we had exceeded the time limit and every curtain other than ours had been broken down, talk about abusing ones position 😉

Afterwards a whole bunch of us went to a diner where I got to meet some great new friends who I had not run into during the party itself, it really was a fantastic evening. As for the ‘pretty young thing’, I didn’t spank her, nor have I spanked her to date. We did however agree that at the next party we are at in December we will play. So if my hater was in attendance last night then please be aware of that for the next party. HOWEVER, I also told the pretty young thing of my preference for a girl to wear white nylon panties, and if she isn’t wearing them there will be a pretty good chance that she will get spanked on the bare with a small paddle from the get go. She said she would write it on her hand, but we will see. Does that make me an egotistical asshole? Probably, but I’ve never denied being one 🙂 Speaking of which, I spanked five girls last night and all of them were wearing black panties, every single one of them, was there an unknown conspiracy against Richard Windsor? Hmm, now I am thinking 😉

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Hater in the house 🙂

My ego has been deflated!! There was me thinking that I am one of the most respected and well liked spankers out there, but today I received a message on Fetlife bringing me back down to earth 🙂 Now I don’t want anyone getting their panties in a bunch over it, I found it to be hysterical and I thought I would show you all the fun side of our community. I took down the earlier post because people started to take guesses as to who wrote this, but it is anonymous so I honestly don’t know who it is or where it came from 🙂 Some of my friends will tell you that I need to be brought down to earth sometimes anyway 😉 Please, no flames, just enjoy it as much as I did. BTW, I think that this message was sent in relation to the post below this one.

“Maybe if you weren’t such a stuck up snot at SL, people wouldn’t either like you (kiss your fat ass) or like most, think you’re a stuck up ass who couldn’t bother to say hello to anyone unless you thought you would get something from them!

Yeah, best to live in your own fantasy world and think you’re all that. Those who watch you, know what a loser you are.

No, I’ve never met you, I doubt you’d even bother to say “hello” to me. I’ve seen you at several events and watched you enough to know, now there’s a fellow who thinks he’s So much better than everyone else.”

A few points 🙂

1) Yes, I do have a fat ass, but so far I have dropped 54lbs and I have another 46 to go, so next year my friends will be able to kiss my skinny ass.

2) This is the only problem that I have with the message and that is in relation to ‘Getting something from them’. Aside from my paid work, everything else that I have done I have done for free. Even shared footage turned into a donation. So dare I say that the comment is the antithesis of who I am.

3) My world isn’t a fantasy one, it is all too real, and I will quite happily be a loser in my world 🙂

4) Bit of an oxymoron really being that you have never met me.

5) Yep, I admit it, I do have supreme confidence, a very big ego. Not everyone can handle that so I accept those comments.

Now do I know why I got this message? Of course I do, I’m not stupid. I know the story behind it.

By the way, the message was titled “An Arrogant Ass”…………….. which, if I am really honest, is how I view myself so I don’t blame anyone else for viewing me that way either 🙂

I love blogging 🙂

I know Bonnie has her ‘Love our lurkers’ day coming up, I wonder if she will mind me taking part but with a twist, I want to have “Love my haters” day and have everyone tell me how much of an asshole I really am 🙂 In fact you can start now if you want with this post, though it is easier to create a fake profile on Fetlife as I won’t be able to trace the IP address 🙂

My Fetlife profile is Richard Windsor’s Fetlife/Hater Profile