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You Like Me, You Really Like Me.

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Hater in the house 🙂

My ego has been deflated!! There was me thinking that I am one of the most respected and well liked spankers out there, but today I received a message on Fetlife bringing me back down to earth 🙂 Now I don’t want anyone getting their panties in a bunch over it, I found it to be hysterical and I thought I would show you all the fun side of our community. I took down the earlier post because people started to take guesses as to who wrote this, but it is anonymous so I honestly don’t know who it is or where it came from 🙂 Some of my friends will tell you that I need to be brought down to earth sometimes anyway 😉 Please, no flames, just enjoy it as much as I did. BTW, I think that this message was sent in relation to the post below this one.

“Maybe if you weren’t such a stuck up snot at SL, people wouldn’t either like you (kiss your fat ass) or like most, think you’re a stuck up ass who couldn’t bother to say hello to anyone unless you thought you would get something from them!

Yeah, best to live in your own fantasy world and think you’re all that. Those who watch you, know what a loser you are.

No, I’ve never met you, I doubt you’d even bother to say “hello” to me. I’ve seen you at several events and watched you enough to know, now there’s a fellow who thinks he’s So much better than everyone else.”

A few points 🙂

1) Yes, I do have a fat ass, but so far I have dropped 54lbs and I have another 46 to go, so next year my friends will be able to kiss my skinny ass.

2) This is the only problem that I have with the message and that is in relation to ‘Getting something from them’. Aside from my paid work, everything else that I have done I have done for free. Even shared footage turned into a donation. So dare I say that the comment is the antithesis of who I am.

3) My world isn’t a fantasy one, it is all too real, and I will quite happily be a loser in my world 🙂

4) Bit of an oxymoron really being that you have never met me.

5) Yep, I admit it, I do have supreme confidence, a very big ego. Not everyone can handle that so I accept those comments.

Now do I know why I got this message? Of course I do, I’m not stupid. I know the story behind it.

By the way, the message was titled “An Arrogant Ass”…………….. which, if I am really honest, is how I view myself so I don’t blame anyone else for viewing me that way either 🙂

I love blogging 🙂

I know Bonnie has her ‘Love our lurkers’ day coming up, I wonder if she will mind me taking part but with a twist, I want to have “Love my haters” day and have everyone tell me how much of an asshole I really am 🙂 In fact you can start now if you want with this post, though it is easier to create a fake profile on Fetlife as I won’t be able to trace the IP address 🙂

My Fetlife profile is Richard Windsor’s Fetlife/Hater Profile

Dehumanizing The Enemy

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I have often wondered whether those of us who are actively involved in the spanking community are too spoilt for choice that it affects our ability to form stable relationships. When I first started being active I honestly thought that I would probably find my ideal mate, and dare I say that when I started and first formed relationships with girls online, I made many, many mistakes misreading what seemed obvious to me.

For many years I went into spanking relationships with the wrong mindset, which was thinking that this could be a genuine relationship. What I found was that it was an up close and personal extension of a fantasy that was being played online. There is no doubt that for several years I struggled emotionally with this new style of meeting people, and I would imagine that I represented myself in a different way to girls than I do now.

Let me break it down from my personal experience as to where I was, to where I am now, and some of you may find my current lack of compassion somewhat surprising. Now before I do that I do know that some people will want to comment on this topic, just please do me a favor though. I am a very, very smart guy, I understand what I am saying, I understand that one day I will meet that someone special and I also understand that not every single person is the same. In a nutshell, while I want to hear your thoughts and opinions and perhaps even your ideas, one of my biggest pet peeves is when I see a Captain Obvious response. Let me put it another way, this post isn’t a complaint or a moan or a whine, it is my genuine feelings and believe it or not, I am completely comfortable knowing where I am right now.

Disclaimers are really something that I don’t like to put in, but for my own sanity I have to do it though. Captain Obvious can be as annoying as someone trying to tell me how I should run my own blog, if you don’t like how I run things then fuck off and run your own blog 🙂 You get the feeling that a rant may be coming?

There are many recurring comments that come my way, and I’m not talking about Dan telling everyone 60 Billion times that he likes M/F pics (even though we haven’t seen one of him spanking a young lady for about 20 years :-)), and most of them seem to be from people who are envious of the way that I live my life, or from girls who compare themselves to the models that I share my pictures with. Is my life something to be envious over though? I don’t think so.

My mindset going in when I first discovered the world of online spanking was that I was going to meet my potential mate, and that was how I approached relationships that I made with girls online. As time has gone on I have found that to be a mistake, and that mistake was on my end, my expectations were unrealistic.

When I spank a girl it is an intimate moment for me, even in a playful group setting. There are two different levels of intimacy, with my friends it is a bonding moment that I believe enhances our friendship, but with someone who I develop a close personal relationship with the intimacy is different, and perhaps at times frustrating.

There are a number of you who have known me for many years, but for those of you who have only known about me since I started this blog I want to share something with you. Perhaps to your surprise, for the first few years when I started meeting people I out and out refused to play with anyone who was married. It isn’t something that I regret, those were the already established morals that I brought in to the scene with me when I first started playing with people. There is a reason for that, and that reason has already been mentioned. When I first started I thought I was going to meet my mate in the spanking world, now aside from my moral approach that you don’t touch another man’s wife, the other part to my mindset was why would I be playing with someone else’s property when I am looking for my own. I know that sounds harsh, but it really was how I felt.

As the years have gone on of course my stance on that has changed as I have gained experience playing with people. As I have mentioned in a post before, I still have problems playing with people who are married. That is something that I can’t change, I was brought up that way and it is a situation that I can’t change overnight. Of course I can happily play with a married person now, but it is play, nothing more and nothing less. I can’t develop intimate feelings for these people because my chemical make up does not allow me to. Perhaps the word ‘dehumanizing’ is way too strong for what I mean, but I do know that when I play with a married person it is only for fun. It is something that I have got better with as the years have gone on, but I won’t lie and tell you that it isn’t something that I think about many times.

For the relationships that I have formed on a personal level with single people, I can only say that whatever mistakes that were made, were made on my own end. My expectations were unrealistic going in and it is only with experience have I discovered what my problems were. My mindset going in was that this could become a stable relationship, when in reality it was just a broader extension of playing with a friend.

Part of my problem is that I am a very passionate man, and I mean passion in the loving sense. Spanking is a very intimate thing for me, my role in the lifestyle isn’t as a dominant who gets off by controlling a woman, the whole act of spanking to me is a highly charged personal experience shared between two people, mainly in a loving, flirtatious, and dare I say it, sexual environment. That is the part that I struggle with the most, my emotions when involved in a one to one situation, especially when I really like the girl I am playing with.

So how does the ‘Dehumanizing the enemy’ come into play here?

It is a defense mechanism for me!! My friends will tell you that I am the absolute worst person when it comes to maintaining communication with them, but despite the fact that I am a very busy man, a lot of it comes from not wanting to get too close to individuals. I know it can come across as sounding very harsh, but I believe in honesty and while this is hard to say, it is the truth.

To defend my feelings I make the people in my life characters, it doesn’t mean that I don’t care for them dearly, nor does it mean that I don’t love them equally as dearly, but if I separate myself from their life then I protect myself from getting hurt. At a guess I am going to take a shot that I have probably spanked 200 plus girls over the last few years, the number maybe even higher, I really don’t keep a count. Out of those girls there are a handful that I have a romantic interest in, and those are the ones that I defend myself from the most. I take the time when I am in their company to enjoy what we have, but that is where they become a character in my life because if I start to follow them closely, then all of the emotions that one goes through come to the surface. And those emotions are the bad ones, the jealousy, the envy, the heartbreak etc.

I’m not alone in thinking that, I’m just that rare person that will say it. I know for a fact from this blog alone that other people feel that way, many a guy has written about being jealous of my life (even in a playful manner) and there are the less subtle ones who display jealousy by hating me. It’s not that they hate me per se, they hate that I am doing something that they want to do. On the other side I also know there are girls who feel the same way. Perhaps they are not envious of me, it is perhaps they are envious because, for whatever reason, they are not able to play with others. More times than I can count I have heard the comment “I’m not like those iddy biddy girls that you play with in your pictures”. The whole ‘Hating on models’ is an entirely different topic, one which I hope to cover one day, but the feelings are nonetheless the same.

What does it mean to me though?

It’s simple, as time has gone on it has made me a harder individual. Now for some young ladies that is a good thing, they misread my desire not to get too close to people as dominance, and for them that actually works. For me though it is all about protecting myself. I can’t allow myself to get too close to someone because I have to deal with the frustration when they find their mate, that is why, to a certain degree, I dehumanize them into being characters in the game of life that I play. Perhaps that makes me sound like a real asshole, I honestly don’t know, but I have a really hard time with rejection, and sometimes that rejection comes in the form of someone I am interested in being with someone else.

Much easier to deal with that when the person is a changeable part of your life, wouldn’t you agree? ………. Probably not, I’m fully aware of that, lol, but that is how I feel about it 🙂

It is why I find being spoilt for choice in the spanking world to be a bad thing. There is some level of protection to that however, knowing that if what you have doesn’t work out, there is always someone else who is willing to take the part in what you are seeking.

Feel free to give me your feedback. Do I sound like an asshole? You can tell me, I can take it. My way of thinking is that if you can dehumanize someone, you are better able to protect yourself from any heartbreak. If any of those does sound harsh, my friends can vouce for me that I am actually a decent person, I just tend to wear my heart on my sleeve a bit more than others do.

One To Make You FAT???

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So today I am pondering why there is such a lack of diversity involvingminorities in the spanking world. Quite honestly I wanted to do a full post about it but as I am at work I will have to condense it. Now I’m not looking for the Captain Obvious comments in response to this, I know that there are spankos out there from different cultural backgrounds, in fact I have personally Spanked black girls, Asian girls, Filipino girls, yet I don’t ever believe, unless I am completely mistaken and forgot someone, that I have ever spanked a Latina girl.

Of course there are always exceptions to the rule, but going by the general population, spankos of various minorities are way underrepresented in my opinion. I take the cultural make up of New York City for instance, and in my vast experience of spanking girls, they certainly don’t show a fair reflection of the cultural make up of the city whatsoever. Like I said, I have spanked girls from various minorities, but I would take a guess that I have spanked Caucasian girls perhaps 98% of the time.

Now why is that do you suppose? Why does the spanking world appear exclusively to be a whites only sport? Again, we don’t need to be Captain Obvious about this, I know from personal experience that there are girls from different minorities in the spanking world, it is just my impression that the amount of spankos from minority groups doesn’t reflect the population by any means.

Is it a cultural thing? You can’t tell me that the same portion of each group doesn’t have the same feelings that we do, but why do we see very few minorities amongst our own population. I would really love to hear some views on this from my readers so that I can perhaps get a better understanding of it. By the way, I was also informed that this subject may be too sensitive to talk about, but I imagine that type of comment also comes from the type of individual who always has to whisper the word ‘Black’ when they talk about a minority population. Bottom line, I’m very interested in the subject and if I don’t know the answers, perhaps someone else does!!

Now for those of you who don’t like to think much, which is basically my male readers 🙂 Here is a collection of pics for you.

This first one inspired the title of this post, WHO KNEW? I guess from now on we all need to add an extra spank when we are dishing out the birthday spankings, eh? But seriously, there has to be a 21st century version of this, eh? How about ‘One to make you Phat?’ Any other ideas?

As you all know, I have started the PANTY SPANKINGS site, and being that the LADIES in my life affectionately call me ‘PUP’, I was delighted when I came across this pic. It is almost like there is a young lady out there thinking of me 😉

Don’t ask me why, but this pic has Pixie written all of it. I can’t put my finger on WHY, but the moment I saw it I thought… PIXIE 🙂

Another pic that I have had forever yet have so far been unable to find a post to put it in, is this beauty. I laughed the moment I saw it and thought “This is how a girl must REALLY feel when she gets that first cane stroke 🙂

And finally, I just love the work of this artist. He doesn’t do spanking work, but obviously he had some inspiration somewhere for this drawing.

P.S.

Over on the PANTY SPANKINGS site today, I have posted the complete set of these pics featuring young Kira getting spanked on the seat of her purple panties. Just click this link to see this set of pics featuring Kira ————-> PANTY SPANKINGS

 

A Surreal Feeling

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The Shadowlane party is upon us and my feelings this week of excitement have become more placid as of today, perhaps it is the calm before the storm. Part of me is on edge because I want everything to go smoothly and I want to stay 2010 Richard Windsor, 1984 Richard Windsor lurks around the corner should the right button be pressed 🙂

This is important for my readers to know right now though, we WILL be having live webcam shows!! Starting on Thursday night at 9.30pm PST (12.30am EST and 5.30am GMT) I will be interviewing Cassandra Park and that will be followed by two live spankings. What I am going to do is provide an external link for these events because I know UStream will kick me off the moment the spankings start. So check back tomorrow for the link to the live webcam stream. On Friday night at the same time I will be interviewing the lovely Erica Scott which will be followed by a very quick spanking that we are doing for a friend.

So why the surreal feeling?

Well, the pup predates the Internet and a part of me is still stuck in the fantasy world. For a lot of us growing up with spanking in our life that was all we had for long periods, our fantasies. I have been to many parties now and even to this day it is a very strange feeling, though it isn’t always negative as I will get to soon. Take this as an example, when I first came to America I started buying Shadowlane videos, this was still long before the Internet arrived in my life. The first video that I bought as you all know by now was ‘Tony and Eve – A College fantasy’. Now I don’t mind telling you this, but Eve Howard was my first spanking crush, and I think you all know what I mean by that. Having watched the film perhaps 50 times or so back in the day I adored the role that Eve played in that film, and I identified her with the type of scene I had always had a fantasy about, her attitude, the clothes she wore, the dialogue, and one of the lasting images when she received her first brief over the knee spanking and she stood there rubbing the seat of her skirt as Tony scolded her, I could literally watch that section for an hour or more.

So why the surreal feeling you may ask? Do you have any idea how many of my fantasies were met by that film? Even 20 years later it still has such an important role in my fantasies, it had a very big impact on me. So now I will go to the party and I will chat with Eve at some point, just this week I got a social email from her and a couple of tweets, it is just one example of how surreal it all is to me. For years and years I had fantasies about spanking Eve, and now I am going to talk to her face to face with generic chit chat. You know what, it actually makes me feel like I am a bit of a creep!! I’m dead serious here as well, I have often thought about writing a post devoted to the subject of fantasy versus reality and how fantasies can play an important part of ones life. When you get to actually meet someone who you have fantasized about it adds a human element to the fantasy, and depending on what your moral approach is to life, I can tell you first hand that it can be an uncomfortable feeling.

Now I just used Eve there as an example because she was the first character that fueled my spanking fantasies. There are of course others, in this order as well, if Kristie Imboch, Samantha Woodley or Virginia Lewis were at the party I would feel the same way. At some point over the years all of them helped me come to terms with who I wanted to be and what I was looking for in the spanking world, a world that of course back in the day was an unheard of event for me. But now it is a reality and it could happen, and should I ever get to talk to these ladies I will have the same feeling I can assure you, I will feel uneasy around them and perhaps a little creepy in my own mind because for each girl I had pictured all of them over my knee at some point, perhaps even as much as a hundred times.

Spanking is very aesthetic to me, even the smallest detail in a movie will have me thinking about it for years. Take the scene I described about Eve, I will take a guess that that small detail is only remembered by me, but it was a hot, hot button, a young lady dressed in a calf length 50’s skirt, Mary Janes and bobby socks to boot, all the while rubbing her bottom because she has just been spanked. It just doesn’t get any better.

Does anything that I have written above resonate with anyone? Am I alone with that surreal feeling of thinking that I don’t really think I should be here right now, like I am a bit of a creep for talking to someone who I once fantasized over. Perhaps I am alone with it, but as you should all know by now, the one thing that you get with me are my honest feelings. Either way, it is one reason why I get a surreal feeling at spanking parties.

Now don’t get me wrong here, I’m not a ‘Star’ gazer by any means, I don’t need to surround myself with stars to elevate my status, my actual friends in the spanking world are the people who elevate my status because they are the coolest cats around. The difference is that the stars in MY eyes are the people who don’t wish to be seen on film or in pictures. A lot of times I get emails sent to me from people saying I am the luckiest man alive to get to play with the girls I do, and I agree with them, the only difference is, they don’t know the 90% of girls I play with who don’t wish to be seen, they are just basing that on the people they see. So in a way I am a star gazer, but not in the conventional sense, the stars to me most people won’t ever know. In fact I would go as far as to say that these unknown people are actually the real stars of any spanking party. Is it nice to meet someone you have seen in a video or in pictures, of course it is, who wouldn’t want an opportunity to compliment someone on their work that you have seen. Cyndi Lauper said it best though “Never meet the person you most admire, they will only let you down”.

What Is A Real Spanking?

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This is probably going to be a long post, so grab your soda and your popcorn.

{{Should you wish to follow an in depth discussion on this topic, I reposted this ‘blog’ on Fetlife and it has already sparked some debate. You can find that thread right here http://fetlife.com/groups/59/group_posts/802103}}

There have been several comments in various places over the last month that have made me want to write about this topic, indeed I have come under some criticism myself for the level of spanking that I deliver. So today’s question is, what exactly IS a real spanking? Comments of course are encouraged. While I may have my own opinions I respect that other people have their opinion also.

Who Defines Severity?

The first area that I am going to start with is severity, or lack thereof. In fact I was just about to say that of course a spanking has to hurt, but in hindsight I don’t actually believe that!! To me the biggest misconception in the spanking world is that in order for a spanking to join the exclusive “Real” spanking community, is that it has to be delivered as hard as is humanly possible.

Due to what I find to be an acceptable level of severity in my own mindset, I had often thought that I just didn’t like hard spanking videos, but as time has gone on I have found that my feelings on the subject were somewhat eschewed. It is true to a degree, what the reality is though is that I ‘enjoy’ spankings on the lighter side. There have been an awful lot of spanking films that I have watched and thoroughly enjoyed that were on the harder side.

How do I decide what is an acceptable level in severity in my mind, well I can tell you this much, it has very little to do with the severity itself. As time has gone on I have realized that it is the dynamics of the individuals involved that decides whether or not I enjoy a video, including the harder ones. Very shortly I am going to be promoting a new discipline orientated network/video company, and having watched their videos so far I can only say that I am stunned at the level of spanking that I was able to enjoy watching, regardless of how hard it may have been, because right from the get go you are clearly watching a very experienced disciplinarian who shows his control with poise and dignity right from the get go. Each girl cries, but they are crying because the disciplinarian has managed to reach them emotionally.

Top In Control

That I found is what my problem has been all along, it hasn’t been that the videos have been too hard for me to watch, it has been because there is little to no ‘Discipline’ going on. A test demonstrating the physical strength of the top does not demonstrate the ability to effectively administer discipline, quite to the contrary actually. On the subject of discipline, let me give you two classic examples of what I believe to be true discipline. It really doesn’t have anything to do with how hard the spanking is, it all has to do with the headspace of the participants. The first video is of Calicutie and Mr. Kaufman, and the second video is the most watched video of all time on Spankingtube. Under the videos I continue with my thoughts so please read on.

Cali’s Video

Man And Wife

Fun And Playful

I make no bones about my own style of play in that I prefer my scenes to be more fun based and perhaps, though it is in the eye of the beholder, scenes that are perhaps on the lighter side of spanking. The prime example of this was the scene that I did with Caroline Grey. The scene itself (which you can see under the tab up to ‘my videos’) was actually a pretty firm spanking, however, throughout the whole spanking we engage in a playful discussion. Over on spanking tube there were some criticism’s posted on the video that it was too playful, but at the same time the combination of both parts of the video have been watched nearly 1 million times. Clearly it reaches a lot of spankos on a level that they are comfortable with, but I don’t think that these viewers are the more vocal people, which is probably a reflection on who they are as people.

The negative comments themselves are not an issue for me because I believe in open discussion free of censorship. On only one occasion have I ever censored a comment and that was on this blog, in that instance I had shared with a friend an opinion and that person had took what I had said as fact. It was totally my fault and I should never have shared the opinion in the first place, hence the reason for having to censor the comment as it wasn’t factual. On my videos though I won’t censor what is said, everyone has, and is entitled to, their own opinion. It is a HUGE pet peeve of mine when I read the comment “If you don’t like it, don’t watch it and don’t comment”. It is like people are not allowed to voice their opinion unless it is agreeable and favorable. I fully understand that not everyone will enjoy my videos and that is totally acceptable, my feeling being that the discussion itself will decide whether or not people have enjoyed it.

Now spanking tube can be pretty brutal with its comments, basically because people are able to post with anonymity, however, how one responds to those type of comments kind of defines the type of individual you are dealing with. Should I get an individual create a fake username to attack me, I actually see the humor in it, especially if the put down is a good one. Just based on the amount of people watching the video gives me the clearest indication as to how much people may be enjoying the video, so a comment by a pissant isn’t going to worry me in the least.

‘Star’ Power

There are times that comments do bother me when they are posted on other people’s videos, especially when it is just two regular people wanting to share their own little part of this world. I can’t tell you how many times I have watched a video and wanted to meet the players involved, even if they may be presenting themselves as faceless players. So many times individuals get wrapped up with ‘Star power’ that it is like spanking models are the only people who count. That is so far from the truth, there are just so many good people out there, and yes, some of those people are also spanking models. At the Shadowlane party there of course are going to be a lot of spanking models in attendance, but the good folks to me are the ones who are good people, whether they are a spanking model or not. It is an entirely different discussion that I am touching on here, and perhaps it is one that I can elaborate on further at a later date, but I am not going to Shadowlane for the star power, the real star power are the regular folks who go to these events and make them what they are. There are of course many models who are going there who I happen to know, but I know them as spanking individuals, not as spanking models, and they most certainly don’t elevate my own status because I firmly believe that the type of individual I associate myself  defines my character. It is a difficult subject to put into words without the fear of offending anyone, and I hope that I am explaining myself correctly when I say this. As everyone on here knows by now, Pixie happens to be one of my best friends in the spanking community, and it isn’t her name that elevates my status, it is because she is one of the kindest, selfless, and most dignified individuals you could come across, that alone elevates my status and helps to define my own character. There seriously isn’t a different type of individual that I could wish for more to be able to say that I am proud to call my friend. Funnily enough I don’t know Lily Anna very well at all, despite having filmed with her, but because she is a close friend of Pixie’s I already have a very good idea that I would also probably enjoy her company as well.

My Friends

I’m getting way, way distracted from my original point, lol, but if you have read this blog at any great length you will of course understand by now that I always deviate from my original point. Just elaborating a tiny bit further before I get back to my original thoughts, there is a motto that I think applies to what I am feeling here “You are the company you keep”. With all of my contacts that I have met during my years in the spanking community, I couldn’t be prouder of the people that I call my friends in the spanking community, mostly because I no longer refer to them as my ‘spanking friends’. they are my real friends. Pixie of course is the defining model for what I look for in friendship, however, most of my friends in the spanking community don’t have a recognizable name. I think of the Southern Spanking Conference Group that I am a part of, and the Videos group, way too many individuals to actually name but two groups of people I am delighted to call my friends and I am proud to associate myself with. My ‘Girls’ (Munchkin, Sarah Rocks), you know what, I can just go on forever about the amount of really good people that I have met and befriended over the years and I really wouldn’t want to leave anyone out, so I will stop right here, the people who are important to me know who they are and they don’t need me to write it down to understand that. If the statement “You are the company you keep” is true, then I am the richest man on the planet because I have the nicest group of friends one can possibly ever wish for. The name ‘Richard Windsor’ could never be heard from again and I wouldn’t be worried, because I have already achieved from my friends more than I could have ever hoped for when I started out in the scene.

My Brother

Right, now that I am done rambling I can finally get back to my original point. I think the reason that I just posted the above was because this has been a very emotional week for me and I wanted to express my love to the people who matter to me the most. On Tuesday, out of nowhere, I was riding the bus home from work and a song came on my Ipod which made me think happy thoughts about my late Brother, within seconds I had tears coming down my face. Anyone who has lost a loved one will understand how powerful those emotions can be and the pain that you feel at those times. It gave me a little time for reflection and how important my friends are to me. It is also the type of thing that makes you put into perspective what the really important things are that one should be concerning themself with.

Symbolism

One aspect that I haven’t covered in the topic of ‘Real’ spanking is the symbolic style of spanking. This is where the act is far more important than the spanking itself. In fact you could almost say that there is very little to the spanks and sometimes it isn’t more than a symbolic gesture. Is it right for anyone to say that isn’t a real spanking? To the participants it is exactly what they want and strive for and I feel pretty assured that they get as much out of their own act as I do from my acts. These are the videos that seem to get reamed the most when they are posted because there is this false misconception that the only real spankings are the ones where the top is beating the girl unmercifully, and for me personally I completely disagree with that standpoint. The symbolic spanking doesn’t cut it for me and I can barely watch it because it is well below my own standard for a spanking, however I could never be critical of it because it is important to the individuals involved, which is the only criteria that matters.

One thing that I will say on that though, is that symbolism DOES play an important role in my own spanking play and my enjoyment of certain spanking videos. At no point could I say that it isn’t a real spanking if all of the criteria that I look for is not met, it is all completely subjective. For myself, if I get 75% of what defines a perfect scene for me then I have done really, really well for myself. The first two videos that come to mind as to what I find to be perfection both come from Shadowlane and for the most part they are simple over the knee hand spankings. Tony and Eve ‘A College Fantasy’ I have written about ad nauseum, if you really want an understanding as to who I am and how I play then you really must watch that video. I’m going to guess that it hits about 99% of what I strive for on a personal level. The other video is more fantasy based for me and is perhaps something that I would enjoy more watching than I would participating in and that is ‘Boy spanks girl, Vol 1’ and more specifically the scene between Kristie Imboch and Tom Byron. Everyone of course has their own definition as to what a sexual video is, for me it is this one though you see no sexual contact whatsoever. It is though, one of the hottest scenes I have ever watched because the sexual tension is there throughout the video, and I personally find that level of sexuality (more mind based) my personal cup of tea when I watch a spanking film.

Just go through the amount of spanking companies on the web and look at the vast difference in styles to see how many different approaches there are to spanking. At the same time though, watch the awesome amateur content on spanking tube, especially from those people who remain faceless but you are still able to get an understanding of their character and their likes and pleasures.

Can ANYONE define what a real spanking is? Is it not ALL subjective in the eye of the beholder?

Super light spankings do not interest me, perhaps unless it is about to be followed by some HLA then I might tolerate it 😉 Do I have any right though to say that it isn’t a real spanking just because I don’t like it?

I Am Man, Hear Me Roar

The hardest one to decide upon though I have found to be is what is the acceptable level of severity. I’m going to be really honest and there have been times where a video can be so hard that it puts me on the cusp between ‘This is too hard for my liking’ and ‘This level of severity is making me upset’. I’m going to guess that this part of the topic is going to be discussed more should people decide to comment on this post.

Once again though, and it is even sometimes hard to admit myself, I have no right to say that a spanking is too hard simply because I do not enjoy that level of play. As I mentioned earlier on in this post, I have found that the actual severity has little to do with whether or not I can accept it as appropriate, it ALL has to do with the participants involved. When I watched the video of Dallas and Audrey where Audrey was having her limits tested, I admitted that the spanking was too hard for my own tastes, however, I know Audrey on a personal level and I fully understand that she was artistically testing her own boundaries. You know what else, I actually watched the whole preview clip as well because at no time was I under the impression that this was anything other than a controlled situation that was agreeable by both the participants concerned. Dare I say I even enjoyed watching it.

The problem that I PERSONALLY encounter is when I see a hard spanking delivered and I am sheltered from the individuals involved. There is a certain level of protectiveness that is a part of my chemical make up, and that protective nature can, AND DOES, pass judgement on what I am observing at times. My view of an alpha male is one who protects and is one whose character is generally regarded as an respected authority, and I have a serious problem when I see what I perceive to be to ME the character trait of, I am an alpha male and I am about to show you how fucking hard I can hit someone. I don’t deny that the problem is mine alone, however I have experienced this in person at parties.

In Control

The one situation that I have spoken of several times was when an individual decided to tell me that I was hitting like a pansy, like there was some expectation that a real man should be exerting his dominance through sheer physical strength. Of course my feeling was that I WAS being a real man, because I was showing control in the situation and I wasn’t being influenced by outside interference. That view was enhanced shortly thereafter when I observed the same individual spanking someone else and they were hitting the girl so hard that their own feet were actually leaving the floor to deliver the blows. It was like they were in fear of judgement being passed that they weren’t a real man if they didn’t deliver a spanking that involved them using as much force as they had.

A word of advice for you budding young tops out there, want to know how a REAL man handles that situation? He bends over and whispers into the girls ear “You have been a very bad girl and you are about to get your bare bottom soundly spanked”. The emotional connection is far more important than the physical strength applied to the spanking itself. Any girl out there care to disagree with me on that statement?

Bottom line is, strength can only be defined one way when it comes to spanking. If a top is able to emotionally reach a bottom before so much as a swat has been landed, then the chances are they are a very experienced spanker. The level of severity regarding the spanking itself pretty much becomes moot after that and its importance insignificant should they have reached the lady’s mind before they reached her bottom 🙂

Thoughts, disagreements, comments, issues? Feel free to share your own opinion with me.

Book Preparation

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Pixie and myself sat down for a question and answer session before I took Pixie over my knee and gave her a live spanking which was hysterical. It’s funny actually because I haven’t given Pixie a spanking in such a long time. Anyway, for the 40 minute show we had a grand total viewing audience of, wait for it……….. at it’s PEAK, we had 13 viewers!!! Now when you take into account that my laptop and Biggy Top’s laptop were running in the room, the most viewers we had were 11 people. Bit of a pisser that is being that I paid $70 for a higher end webcam, and with the knowledge that Shadowlane is coming up and I had hoped to show several live spankings on cam. Actually, regardless of how many people watch, there will still be live spankings direct from Shadowlane.

So while I may have been disappointed with the amount of people watching, we DID have a blast doing it. Also this weekend we filmed some hysterical skits and spanking sketches for a new spanking company which will be coming REALLY soon. It was such a joy to take part in them, in fact in one I got to play the ‘Creepy’ spanker at a party 🙂

I think I may have mentioned this before, but I am putting together the first of what I hope will be several books. The first one is formulating right now and will probably be of little interest to my readers here. In the next year I plan to write a novel style book and I also want to do my own biography, but the first book that I am doing is a collection of spanking stories. Most of these stories I have already written and posted somewhere on the web over the years, however I am rewriting several of them to include a longer build up and better scene descriptions, then I will also be writing a couple of new stories to add to the collection. There isn’t an exact time frame, I have given myself to the end of the year, but the chances are I will have the book completed and published by the end of September.

The goals I had for videos is going to take a back burner approach, if not completely disappear. Lately I have been quite disheartened by the industry as a whole and I don’t think I will be adding to it. Now, I will still be making videos, doing interviews and running live spankings on webcam, but pretty much everything I do will be for free. It doesn’t mean that I won’t still be working for others, in fact I just shot some material this past weekend for a new company, but I seriously doubt that I will be making my own video productions. My mind may change, but not at this present time.

Next up of course is the Shadowlane party in two weeks time so there will be a lot written about that in the coming weeks, both the preparation and the post party reports.

Before we go, at the spanking get together that I was at on Saturday night, we all discussed the following video that was posted on Spankingtube and how it is just about perfect for those who practice a D/D lifestyle. I hope you all enjoy it as much as we all did. Unfortunately it can’t be embedded on this site, but just follow the link to watch a really hot video.

     Ella and Christopher

Busy As A Bee

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Before I start today’s post I just want to thank everyone for their feedback on the last post. As I had mentioned, I had been discussing this topic with Erica Scott for a little while now, and today both Erica and Craig posted their own views on what they term “High School Emotions”. They are both very well written articles and I encourage you to read them both.

Erica’s High School Emotions

Craig’s High School Emotions

The pic above was snapped on the fly at work today, so I’m not in ‘Richard Windsor’ character mode 🙂

On the more positive side of the spanking world, I have been doing some great networking in regards to not only the upcoming Shadowlane party, but also with two spanking websites. One of which is an established site, and the other will be a new site sometime in the near future. This weekend in fact I will be creating a pro blog for a paysite, but most importantly (if you look at the bars at the top of this page) I will be making my initial Cause For Paws post. Pixie has collected a lot of stuff and I can’t wait to list it all and the companies that have donated.

(Pic above when I had 6 chins :-))

I’m super excited about the Shadowlane party with less than four weeks to go. I’m leaving New York on the Thursday with at least one fellow member, but from the rumblings I am hearing there will be a bunch of us from New York on the same flight. Hell, I’m looking to join the mile high spanking club 😉

Two of my favorite girls are going to be at the party as well which just makes me really happy. Both Sarah Rocks (AKA Sarah Angel Eyes) will be there and I am delighted by that. You will find me spending a lot of time with them at the party because they are both diamonds.

I’m super greedy though, I want more pics of the pair of them wearing their schoolgirl uniforms and white nylon panties 😉

There will be many long term friends of mine attending, some of whom I only see once or twice a year, plus there are people such as Erica Scott who I have only met very briefly, but who I would like to spend more time with this time. My brain is scattered tonight but I’m pretty sure she is doing an interview with me. We will also do something a little fun for Pixie as well. Rumor has it that my favorite fantasy, Samantha Woodley, will also be in attendance, but that will be for another post. The content of that post will be fantasy versus reality, and which one is better.

Of course I have a number of people I am interviewing and some more that will be appearing on webcam, either with me or with someone else of their choosing, and of course there are bound to be surprises that show up. It is one of the joys that I get in life, and that is promoting the good people in this world. Seriously, if you make money in the scene, who WOULDN’T want a free video out there that is going to be watched by 100,000 people?

Later on in the year I have been invited to take part in a new online project and while I can’t say much about it right now, I’m really excited to be asked to take part in some spanking skits. More on that will come later though, but the running of the webcam at the Shadowlane party is actually a trial run for a later project. Okay, I am done for now, I will leave you with this beautiful song by Raylene Rankin “The Lament of The Irish Immigrant” (Ok, they won’t let me embed it so just click the link) http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=n5xsq7Z1bjY

More On The Shadowlane Party

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So I have started to formulate a plan for the upcoming party, and after a couple of slight changes I like the direction we are going in. Everything is tentative of course because it is a party, but instead of having an open door for the live webcam spankings, what I am actually doing is arranging for people to come in and perform live. Right now I am almost certain that Cassandra Park will be spanking JP in a live F/M scene, on the other side of things though I am going to be interviewing Alicia Panetierre on video with the webcam running at the same time, and she has agreed to do a fun live spanking as well. This schedule will change dramatically, but here is a quick run down of what I hope to achieve at the party.

Thursday:

I am flying in to Vegas with at least one of my friends, though because of our countries of origin, there is a chance her and I will fight the whole plane ride 🙂

That night I “Hope” to have the first live stream. There is no guarantee on that one, but I might be able to persuade some unfortunate girl to join me.

Friday:

At Noon I am going to be showing the England versus Bulgaria match in my room, if, and it is a big if at that, the guys from Northern Spanking decide to join me, perhaps we will have the webcam running then as well. After this I will try and record an interview before most people arrive and everyone gets set up for the party.

Friday night is the vendors fair and that night I will be hanging with my peeps. Don’t be surprised if I get a live webcam show going with someone in the wee hours of the morning. That will be good news for those of you in Europe as that will be a nice mid morning event for you.

Saturday:

Once again I will try and schedule an interview in the morning. In the afternoon I have a private party to attend, and prior to the evening Shadowlane party I will arrange for one of the live webcam streams to take place Saturday afternoon.

Saturday night is the party and like Friday, I will be hanging with my friends afterwards. Like I said though, these parties go on all night so don’t be surprised to see a live webcam event at any point during the night.

Sunday:

I haven’t worked this out yet, but once I find out who is staying and who is leaving I will arrange for something.

Stay tuned and I will keep you all updated on what is going to be a dynamite party. The schedule may change as time goes on, but rest assured that I will notify you ahead of time for the live webcam streams. The day I am planning a stream I will be sure to post on the day of the event letting you know the time it will be taking place.

And now for the final part here, and this relates to anyone attending the Shadowlane party. Richard Windsor’s room is DRAMA FREE!!

I want no part of anybodies drama, YOUR drama is not MY drama. If you have any issues regarding me, drop me a line before the party and I will give you an honest answer. Once I am at the party I WILL NOT tolerate anyone trying to interrupt me from having a good time!! If you don’t like me for whatever reason, stay the fuck away from me. I don’t have time for any one’s childish games, or the twisting and manipulating of statements to benefit someones ulterior motive, ESPECIALLY when I have answered a question and I have been set up for this.

At the Shadowlane party I will be hanging out and fraternizing with my dear friends from the group, we want to have as much of a good time as any of you. I can’t stress this enough, I’m not going to Shadowlane for someones bullshit, I’m going their to have fun with my friends and to meet new ones. You will find me to be an extremely friendly person, but if your goal is to try and ruin my fun, you will get the 1984 version of Richard Windsor, and he wasn’t a very friendly person 😉

Pardon the French, but if you are going to the party to take part in the bullshit, leave me out of it. If you have any questions of me before the party just shoot me an email because I will not respond nicely to confrontation at the party itself. I’m going there with some of the best friends I have in the scene, and I hope that everyone else is doing the same, whether they like me or not I hope that they have a good time. This trip is costing me over a thousand dollars, and it is the best money I can spend to have the time of my life.

It is simple party etiquette, go to the party to hang out, mingle and fraternize with new people and your loyal friends. Don’t go there to cause problems, because nobody likes to be a part of that and it ruins their enjoyment of the party. Not everyone likes everyone else, it is how you handle that, that shows the true character of the person you are. I’m sure that I won’t like everyone who is attending the party, but I will be nothing but cordial, polite and respectful towards them while I am there. If there are any issues then they should be worked out either before or after the party, the party itself is not the place to deal with these issues. Whatever drama anyone has, just remember that it will impact on a lot of people who will feel nothing but uncomfortable being in the situation. I know that parties can be a shit stirrer’s personal playground, just try to be respectful, eh? It isn’t too much to ask. People have paid a lot of good, hard earned money to take part in this event. They are paying to be amongst adults!!

Richard Windsor.

Lights, Camera, Action!!

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I’m happy to announce something unique for everyone here. At the present moment I am helping some friends out with a project, and at the Shadowlane party I am going to be giving something a test run to make sure it works okay. In a few short weeks I am hoping to be able to run a live webcam stream on this very site from the Shadowlane party. Full details of the dates and times will be coming, and of course they will be updated on this site as I add them, but at the very least I am going to be able to show some live footage with willing parties live from Las Vegas.

Now I have a couple of interviews set up right now, with a couple more to add. My hope is that I can not only record the interviews on video to show on spanking tube, but I also hope to stream the interviews live just as long as the interviewee’s are okay with that. At this present time I am set to interview Erica Scott, Cassandra Park and Spanking Sophie, though I do have a couple more people who I am waiting to hear back from. For the interviews I can’t guarantee any spanking action, but I will do my best to coordinate something. Anyway, as I said, stay tuned for full details of my plans. Some people may wish for it to be known that they will be appearing live on the webcam stream, but there will be others who may just show up and surprise us.

I’m also going to have my cameras there to shoot free footage for spanking tube so there will be lots for you all to watch. If anyone is going to Shadowlane and wishes to take part in any of the events I am planning, please feel free to drop me a line, I will only run the webcam with people I have confirmed it with so that the privacy of those who don’t wish to take part is secure. There will also be a notice on my door when the webcam is running a live stream from my room.