There is no denying, I LOVE to write!! My mind normally races at 100mph and it is chock full of ideas, plans and images, that I just have to get them out somehow. Over on Spankspot I saw that he currently has a poll up asking what are the gender and the spanking orientation of his readers. When I ran a similar poll last year I was pretty surprised at the results, and unless your humble narrator has configured his poll where only ‘He’ can see the real results (I,e; Bumping Pixie down from 2nd to 3rd in the poll for spankee of the year), then I actually think that his poll results are going to mirror mine, though the early indication is that he has even more male readers than I do.
It presents a bit of a dilemna for me because I actually prefer to write and share my own personal take on things (yes, surprisingly, a personal blog is all about sharing your own views and feelings) rather than just posting pictures. The problem is though, and this is a rather blanket statement of course, most of my readers are male and quite frankly they don’t give much of a toss what I have to say, they are here for the pictures. I try to keep a balance between written and picture posts because I obviously want to keep my audience as well, that is only natural. Now this may come as a bit of a surprise to some, but I do take quite a bit of shit when I write too much. This can either be directly, or done behind my back that I later discover, though I am pretty thick skinned so not only am I totally okay with it, but the more shit I take then the more I wish to post.
Spanking Pics
When you have a certain amount of success you have to accept the negativity as well, and I am going to be pretty egotistical when I say this, but I have had so many people approach me in person to praise the quality of the pictures that I come up with, that I can totally understand why that is threatening to some. Spanking is a passion for me, and I have been collecting spanking pics for years, not only that but I spend hours upon hours searching and scouring for websites where I can discover the most unique form of our art that I can come up with. I’m going to take an educated guess that my fellow blogger All Things Spanking spends just as much time as I do looking for those little golden nuggets because his discoveries are freaking awesome as well. You can clearly see the effort that he puts in by the quality of his work.
On the flip side of this there are of course the vultures!! Now a vulture is a shady little character that follows the lions of the spanking world. Think about it for a minute, if you are a vulture you are going to meticulously follow the leaders of the pack because you know that their pickings are going to make for a nice tasty little meal. I wonder if there is any sense of personal pride though, knowing that you are waiting to see what other people post before you post your own collection of gathered pictures culled from the work of other bloggers? One of the enjoyments that I get from the work that I put up is the effort that I put into what I do. For instance, if I was to go to All Things Spanking everyday and wait to see what he posted before I posted the very same thing, then I wouldn’t get any satisfaction from the work I was putting out. When I do find an exceptional pic that Mitch has posted, I have on occasion also shared that pic, but the first thing I do is show him the courtesy of telling people that I got the pic from his site and I link to the relevant post.
Now I know that I have been down this road before and I have had many a discussion about it through personal emails. Over time I have come to an understanding in regards to foreign blogs using material that they find on other blogs. Certainly Charlie in Hungary enlightened me a lot as to why he shares the work that he does, and indeed the effort that he puts in. There is a certain amount of flattery that comes from someone valuing your work highly enough that they want to translate the piece into their own language so that they can share their thoughts with their own readership. At first I didn’t really agree with it, but upon reflection I totally understand the concept and I think it is a pretty good idea actually.
Another thing that has been pointed out to me is that I don’t own the pictures that I post, and that is a very valid point. No, I rarely own the pictures that I post other than my own work. A large portion of the work that I post I have archived over the years and 75% of it is going to be pictures that were garnered from long out of print magazines and organizations. Though as I said above, I go out of my way to find the rare and unique pics that I don’t think have been seen anywhere before on a spanking site. In my archives I have 1000’s upon 1000’s of spanking pics, a great many of which were collected years ago and haven’t been seen in years, I’m just waiting for the right opportunity to post them. The vultures are also waiting for me to post them as well I am sure. Yeah, I guess it is kind of flattering in a way that someone wants to be just like you and looks forward to gathering up your work to share for themselves, even without acknowledgement as to who they got them from.
Pay Sites
One final thing in regards to pictures is the use of the material that is put out by the current spanking sites on the Internet. We all have to remember that these sites are in business and therefore they put watermarks on their pictures. Here is a little confession for you, as I consider myself a part of the Punished Brats family. One of the things that I do for the PB crew is that I report the use of their material to them so that they can contact the individuals responsible and have proper accreditation attributed to them, I have a personal interest in their success. I’m one of those moles that troll the illegal file sharing networks to prevent PB’s material from being illegally shared. Does that make me a bit of a douchebag? Yeah, I think it probably does, but Punished Brats is a company that I work for and will probably continue to work for. The big difference is that I admit when I am being a bit of a douchebag.
Most professional websites out there really don’t mind if their promotional material is distributed amongst blogs and groups for people to see, but they do mind if someone has taken the time to edit out their watermark. It goes back to what I was saying earlier about not being credited when someone poaches the pictures that one posts, professional websites also want their watermarks left on the pics so that viewers can visit their sites to check out THEIR work. Of course mistakes happen, and I have even made some myself on this blog, but there are hundreds of pics out there that have been altered to crop out the website address of the owners of the material. Now maybe it is because I am a total picture whore, but I can pretty much tell you which paysite each pic belongs to, whether that be from the actors involved, or even just the ambience of the surroundings. At least 99% of the time it is pretty obvious, though I will concede that mistakes will happen. As an example, if a picture is titled NSI00123 or something similar, then it belongs to Northern Spanking, whether the watermark has been cut out or not, it is an easy one to work out, as are the quality of the pics involved.
My stance has softened over time when it comes to people pulling pics that I post, I’m now more of the mind frame that the people who are doing it are actually paying you a compliment, because they want to present their work more like you do yourself. Earlier on today I likened it to a compulsive liar. A compulsive liar isn’t necessarily a bad person, the reason that they lie is because their fantasy world is a far better one than the world that they live in. Nobody knows what their real world is like, so we can’t judge that person. It is part of the reason why I enjoyed the film ‘Precious’ so much, especially during the times when bad things were happening to her. If you have not seen the film then let me just say that at times of serious trauma, her mind puts her into a wonderful place which is far different from the reality that she is currently in.
Care to disagree with me? Feel free to call me a hypocrite and let me know so, I can handle the truth.
On two occasions that I remember I made a flagrant error. One time I posted a picture from Kelly Payne that I was unaware of it belonging to her. The problem was easily solved though, Kelly wrote to me informing me that the pic belonged to her and I made sure that I clearly stated that it was hers when I revised the post. Another time the owner of Sound Punishment contacted me to tell me that I didn’t have his permission to post the pics I had posted, even with the watermarks still in place. Like I said, mistakes happen and I promptly removed the offending pics as I had clearly not asked for permission to post them (They had been sent to me by the model in the pic). Now I was told shortly after that I didn’t have to remove the pics, but if I act like a douchebag I want people to know that I am doing so deliberately, not through a mistake!!
Writing as an art.
So we now come back to how I started this post, and that would be the art form of writing a post. Many times a woman has disagreed with my opinions, though it has always been in an informed way based on what I wrote. I’m afraid the feedback from the guys, only when it is negative by the way, actually, before I carry on, let me just say that the praise that I get from guys is 20 times the amount of the negative feedback that I get.
The negative feedback can come in the form of the opinions that I have, the amount of times that I write compared to the amount of times that I post pictures, my preferences in the world of spanking, and the one that is always my favorite, the inane jealousy to the fullness of my spanking life and to my overall enjoyment of who I am!!
I get the point regarding written posts versus pictures posts, people are just airing what it is that they prefer, nothing wrong with that. Unless of course they start to speak for other people…. “WE like it when you post pictures”…………. “We come here to see M/F spanking pics because that is the only pics worthy of our visual pleasure”………… etc, etc, etc. Not everyone comes here for the same thing so nobody has a right to speak for what other people enjoy.
In regards to my spanking preferences, again, this blog is about my journey in the spanking world and how it is seen through my own eyes. The preferences that I have are perhaps more on the lighter side of spanking and are more aesthetic in nature. Not everyone enjoys that of course, though I do think that the sheer number of visitors that I get every day gives me some indication that I am doing pretty well.
Pass the Haterade.
Then we come to my favorite one, and that is the jealousy and hatred towards me that only a male could possess. Let’s separate the jealousy from the envy though, because I don’t consider it jealousy when someone asks me how come I get to spank all these hot girls and that they are jealous. That is more of a fun comment of course and I take it as such. Now I don’t want anyone to get bent out of shape there by my using the term ‘Hot girls’. They are simply stating something that is based upon their fantasy perception and it isn’t reflective upon other people, its roots are within the fantasy itself. The truth be known, I only post pictures of a small percentage of the people I play with and the term ‘Hot Girl’ is very subjective. I mean, seriously, you know what I consider a hot girl? Just to give you some idea, I thought that Adrianne, as played by Talia Shire in Rocky, was super hot, especially when she worked in the pet store. Juliette Lewis, Drew Barrymore, Cyndi Lauper, Chrissie Hynde, Marlee Matlin………. Hot is such a subjective term, it really is.
Those aren’t the people that I am talking about though, I am talking about the ones that simply cannot stand the fact that someone as low as me has such a modicum of success. It is almost like through their hatred they are able to live vicariously through me, especially when they are critical of my work. A few examples for you! If I create a video that is mild and funny in its context, I am likely to get the hatred because supposedly that is NOT how it is supposed to be. I only have to mention that the video that Audrey Knight and I made has now been watched a half a million times, and I can see the sneers appear immediately. I make videos that appeal to me because I am presenting my side of the spanking world to the audience that is watching, I can’t begin to tell you how many people have called my work lame and pattycake stuff. Now I’m not an expert in the field, but I am going to guess that people don’t like it simply because so many people DO enjoy it. There is this misconception in the spanking world that everything has to be one way, and it isn’t. So when someone explores a different aspect that is successful, it just totally grates the person whose imagination cannot be broadened.
Likewise, the same applies to my written prose, views on spanking and my approach to the scene and lifestyle overall. Let me state a fact here for you, are you aware that the people who complain the loudest that my writing and my opinions suck, are the same people who cannot formulate two paragraphs of opinion, or hold an audience captive outside of a set of pictures. The more that I write and express myself, the more these people wish they could also have the same success that I do. The sad part is though, they aren’t sure what the measuring stick is.
I can ramble on all day about that if I wanted to, the bottom line is, some people are unable to appreciate that someone has become successful based on who they are, especially when in their own eyes they see this person as someone who is beneath them. Now am I bothered by the hatred? Take my word on this because my word is important to me, I am not bothered by that in the least, and as I have held you captive this far, let me tell you why in this final chapter.
True to one’s self.
When I find that someone is unhappy with me as a person for WHATEVER reason it be, whether that is from my standing as an individual, or, if they simply don’t like me having met me in person or by what I write, I am actually comforted by that. The reason I take comfort from that is that someone dislikes me for the right reasons. I feel that I have done my own character proud if someone dislikes me because of whom I am, because I would much rather have that knowledge than knowing that someone likes me for being someone that I am not. I pride myself on my honesty and my approach to life, and if someone doesn’t like that then I am more than fine with that, at least I am being true to myself.
Actually I will finish with one final address, because it is a question that is frequently asked of me. The question is this: “How come you get to spank so many spanking models?”
As you can tell from today’s post, I am being pretty ballsy today and clearly my ego isn’t getting in the way, on occasion I have to shoot from the hip and tell it like it is.
Spanking Models
Let me tell you why ‘Spanking Models’ don’t seem to have a problem with me, it is because I am a straightforward guy and there is no mistake that what you see is what you get. I’m not going to pander to any “Spanking model”, and despite a perception that I suck up to spanking producers, I do anything but that, which I think they would concur with. Many years ago I stunned one of my closest friends with what I said to her. My friend has cerebral palsy and one day we were discussing disabilities versus able bodied persons. In my opinion she was cutting far too much slack to someone who has a disability and I found myself getting irate, to the point that I finally snapped. My words to her were the following, and if you have ever heard me raise my voice then perhaps you can picture this scene
“Listen, an asshole is an asshole. It doesn’t matter if they are a disabled asshole, or if they are an able bodied asshole, an asshole is still an asshole”
I take that approach in life, if you act like an asshole around me then don’t expect me to give you anymore than one minute of my time. I simply have no time, tolerance or desire to associate myself with people who I believe disrespect me in any form. Likewise, if someone believes that I treat them in that manner, then I would totally expect them not to associate with me either. That transcends to spanking models as well, if you treat me like a piece of shit then don’t expect anything less than the same treatment from me. I really don’t need to sing my own praises on this issue though; the proof is in the pudding. The reason that I get to play with so many people is because I have built up that respect as being an honest, genuine person. I guess for those who wonder why I get to play with so many “Spanking models”, it’s because I don’t treat them like models, I sort out the good people from the bad no matter what their standing is in the lifestyle.
Dramaazzzz.
I’ve witnessed a lot of drama in recent times and it is something that I always try to analyze, just why people act the way they do. Are there some people that are unaware that when they constantly have problems within the spanking community, that THEY might actually be the problem? I understand that there can be misunderstandings, but when there is a continuous pattern of problems then the person really needs to step back and evaluate how they are presenting themselves. You start with honesty, as I mention above, not everyone likes me, not by a longshot, but I am happy to know that the people who dislike me do so because it is based on their perception of who I really am as a person. The only character about Richard Windsor is the name, the rest of the person is VERY real. I encourage people to dislike me, I will respect them far more than someone who only pretends to like me. So seriously think about it, if problems keep cropping up you should evaluate yourself, chances are that is where the answer lies. Like the person who posted someones personal information, you can argue your point all you want, you just disrespected a long standing, well loved member of the spanking community, and in return you lost the trust of a whole community. You can only play the victim so long before you finally accept responsibility for your own actions. Trust me, I know, I’m much happier these days knowing that people consider me to be an asshole, it’s a much better place to be than someone thinking I might be an asshole, I’ll be the first person to tell them that I am one.