Today I am going to take a little different approach and head in a vanilla direction for the most part. That may not please the guys who will be looking for the visual stimulation that my blogs normally represent, but it is one of those rare times that I want to welcome people into my world a little bit.
As everyone who has followed this blog is aware, for the last 14 months I have changed my lifestyle to a more healthy one and with that has come the opportunity to lose some weight. The original motivation for this of course is well known by now, my little Brother passed away at the awful age of 41 years old and while it was a blood clot that was his ultimate demise, I don’t think that any of us kids ourself for one minute to know that it was actually his obesity that killed him. When he passed he was well over 400lbs.
A lot of communication that I get in private emails is to do with the weight loss and what are perhaps some tips that I can give to people. This isn’t easy because we all have our own motivations and what may be easy for one person is not as easy for another. In a nutshell though, here are some of the things that I did to assist me in losing weight.
First and foremost, I had to dedicate myself completely to an entire make over. The first thing to go was going out drinking. Now, I am not professing to being a teetotaller, in the right situation I will enjoy a few drinks with friends, but the social life I was living with the Rockabilly crowd involved copious amounts of alcohol. For a whole year I stopped going to shows because of this and only recently have I started to attend them again. The difference now however is that when I attend a Rockabilly show I simply do not drink. You will still see me having a drink or two at spanking parties, and if the environment calls for it, I may even have a party styled event at a spanking party. It is different there though because I am happy at spanking parties.
On the food front, that was also a mammoth change in what I had to do. Over the year I have learnt that you are not going to win every day, or even every week. The key to success however is just not giving up, if you have 2 bad days, or three bad days, don’t worry about it, start right back over on the fourth day and get back on track. I have been seeing a dietitian since I started getting healthier and I see her every three weeks, I can guarantee to you right now that not every visit has been a successful one. The goal though is to persevere, even when you have a setback. Quite honestly I can’t list everything here that I changed about my diet, but if I can give you a lamen version it would be this. Junk food has been completely eliminated from my diet, even during those bad times when you are eating more than you should, it is better if that food is grapes than it is ice cream. Greek Yogurt has been a staple of my diet, eating regularly, snack foods consist of bran or wheat crispbread, and during the day it is salads or soups for lunch. The whole diet had to change completely and it requires the dedication to follow through with it.
Most important however is this, you simply have to exercise!! If you don’t burn more calories than you consume, then quite frankly you aren’t going to lose weight. It doesn’t have to be strenuous, what you need to have happen is for your metabolism to continue to be active. Some days are different than others, but here is a typical exercise day for me. First thing in the morning I ride my exercise bike for 5 minutes, when I get home from work I walk the 25 minutes after I exit the train as opposed to taking the bus, and later that night I do the exercise bike for ten more minutes. That is it!! Some rare days I don’t exercise at all and some days I do much more than I stated above, the key to all of it though is never give up completely, if you miss a few days then get right back on it and start over. Like I said, not every month has been a successful one, but having the motivation and dedication to persevere, I have so far lost 62lbs in 14 months.
Here is a picture of the progress so far, and it is the first time that I am ever allowing this pic to be seen. Why is that? Because until now I have been nothing but embarrassed for the pic to be seen by anyone. Here I am at my heaviest alongside how I look today.
When I set out on this path I didn’t have a specific goal in mind, and really I still don’t, however, I do set small goals. The latest one was to get to the weight I weighed in 1987, and last weekend I achieved that. The next goal is to get to under 200lbs, something that I have never been as far as I can remember. That is just 10lbs away now, and I WILL achieve that by the time the Party rolls around. After that the goal will be 175, and as that will only be 3lbs away from having lost 100, then the goal after that will be 172 đŸ™‚ Plug away guys, and if I can offer any of you some moral support, just shoot me an email.
When I post on any spanking related website, I am doing so as the character, Richard Windsor. Now the character of course is a true representation of who I am, for better or worse, but because it is all one dimensional and geared towards spanking, the whole of the person never really comes out. People who actually know me in person know that I am an affectionate guy, perhaps a little standoffish at first, but I am also one of those rare guys who is genuinely touched by certain events. Acts of kindness resonate within me like you wouldn’t believe, and I am not just talking material kindness, just simple pleasantness in a person. I genuinely adore kind and thoughtful people and I am totally attracted to caring individuals. To go along with that, I am also a sensitive person.
Many of you know this and many of you don’t, but I have spent my entire life (until my current job) working with people with disabilities. In fact some of my closest friends were kids that I once counseled at summer camp who became an important part of my life. So obviously one of my loves in life is the human spirit. This next piece I am bringing to you may not be new to you, but I discovered it online and I have become fascinated since. It is a horrible story in its origin, it continued to be bad when the person became more of an experiment than a real person, and one incident that followed regressed the girl back to her original state, but throughout it all I couldn’t help but feel a deep bond with this girl and what she came through. There isn’t a fairytale ending to this, and I am currently reading a book on her life, but this video moved me emotionally and if it moves you, perhaps we have something in common. Please be aware that the following video is not pleasant and can be very moving.
Okay, I wanted to write more, but I have had enough for now. Perhaps one day I will continue on this theme, but hopefully from this small exert you can see inside Richard Windsor’s mind a little better đŸ™‚
Inspirational, Richard. It takes a great deal of determination and spirit to make a deep change like you did and that you continue to make.
Poppy
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I watched the entire video (that is what I have been doing since the last time I commented)- a tragic case in so many different ways. There is no happy ending, just as you say, and I think that is one of the myths when one hears about a child being rescued from abuse. Abuse reverberates and , in this case, was compounded by what I believe was well meaning research and support. So, so sad. That last video of her after the foster home just broke my heart.
Richard, you are doing an amazing job. Keep having faith in yourself. Gene has touched my heart deeply. I am an adult survivor of child abuse which stemmed from an alcoholic father, the kids at school, the kids in my neighbourhood and my own dentist and brother in law. I used to spend huge amounts of time alone in my room with only my music to keep me company. I spent years of my life as an adult with no hugs, kissing or human touch. I now know very different as my husband gives me all the touching I so ached for for those years and a love I’ve never known before. It is wonderful work you do helping others. I wish you much success and happiness always. Take care.
Richard, You are doing awesome! Keepup the good work. You look great!. Thanks for sharing this with us.
I remember, as a kid, seeing Truaffaut’s Wild Child. The reality is far less pleasant than the fantasy ending the movie had.
What her “parents” did to this child was proufondly sad. That she was allowed to just wander through foster homes after being a “research child” for 4-5 years is unconscionable for the psychologists that were ostensibly trying to help her.