*Just an addendum. If you disagree with me by all means feel free to say so. I openly encourage the opinions of others and I don’t see it as a personal affront :-)*

Grab your popcorn and a nice warm cup of cocoa (Diet Coke for Pixie ;-)) and settle back, the pup is about to go on a rant. This has been a long time coming and I need to get a few things off my chest.

Before I start though, with all that has gone on with me for the last few weeks I have become a little homesick. So do you want to know how I combated that? I took the complete DVD set of the Royle Family, all 18 episodes and the 4 Christmas Specials, and I have watched them all back to back. It is just about the best show I have seen and it is really a show about nothing, just a working class family sat in their living room and how they interact with each other. After watching an interview on youtube, JK Rowling pretty much summed up everything for me when I pondered why I love it so much and why it takes the homesickness away from me. It is because we ‘KNOW’ every character in the show, we know them personally from our own lives. It is just the simplicity of it all that makes it magic. Perhaps my favorite part is when Denise and Dave come home drunk and they are arguing, the way Caroline Aherne plays Denise was pure perfection. Acting like that is so hard to find because having known many drama queens, she plays the role of a drunken girl to perfection, right down to the crying!! I grinned from ear to ear when she said “She hangs around him like flies on shit…. And you’re the shit, and she’s…. she’s not even the fly because she’s too fat to be the fly”. Total dynamite, you can watch that clip right here —-> She’s the Shit.

So that is pretty much a great lead in to what I want to talk about, and just so that you know, there may be some gratuitous swearing so be warned.

Just recently I have been on a kick watching the clips on Spanking Tube. There are a lot of videos put up by amateurs and I think it is a marvelous thing to see so many people having fun. Unfortunately though, this has come with some major drawbacks, and those drawbacks have been an underlying issue that I have had with the spanking scene for a long time now, which is why I want to address them here.

The recent wave started for me when someone uploaded one of their videos to Spanking Tube and basically proclaimed themselves to be the King of all spankers. Each to their own of course, but it was the comment that his was a ‘Real’ spanking, not like the rest of the patty cake bullshit that was on the site that got to me.

Now then, I will confess to not having watched his video. I skimmed the cursor over and when I saw the deep bruising that was building as the spanking went on I decided that the video wouldn’t appeal to me, and there is really nothing wrong with that. However, and perhaps mistakenly, I did decide to challenge what was said about the patty cake bullshit. So I voiced my opinion that nobody had a right to say what constitutes a real spanking, which I will get into later, but I didn’t criticize the video because that wasn’t my place. Now because of the severity there was some criticism by people, some even calling it abusive because there was apparently just coldness on the part of the spanker during the scene and no comfort was shown. Again, I can’t judge that, who am I to judge that? If it was consensual then I see no problem with how people play, and the spankee CLEARLY stated multiple times that it was consensual and that she in fact asked to test her limits.

Within a day a “new” poster arrived and slammed anyone and everyone in the spanking world, particularly singling out Dallas from Dallas Spanks Hard as being old and washed up. The “new” poster also highly praised the spanker in the video and then singled out a few people who had commented on his video…… err, I mean, the spanker’s video 😉 Now I will say one thing, the ‘Mystery’ poster went after me based on the videos that I have up on Spanking Tube (They will all be at the bottom of this post) and I will tell you something, he obviously has a real comical side to him because his put down made me roar with laughter. This is what he had to say about me, and I quote:

“Secondly, Richard your video’s are so boring you can make someone with Insomnia Narcoleptic
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See,,,,,Hell I fell asleep just talking about him.”

Now you have to admit, that was bloody funny!!

Now while nobody else actually singled me out, other than a few who said that they liked my videos, even the spankee in the video who actually asked for my autograph, lol, there was MANY comments that put down some of the other videos as being weak and particularly chose spanking models as being fake in the scenes that they do.

So let me start there, spanking video productions and models. There is nothing fake about the spankings that models get, and the ‘Know it alls’ who proclaim that it is just a paycheck for an actress, I can personally vouch that I have spanked three girls BEFORE they became a spanking model. Each and every one of them was a true bonafide spanko. What people need to remember is that spanking video productions are creating a fantasy for many people, it doesn’t make the spanking that they receive any less real. The only thing that you could pick out is that they are ‘Creating’ a scene in which someone gets spanked, but let’s be honest, MANY of us do that anyway in our everyday spanking relationships, so are we any more real than what we are seeing on screen?

I will even go further to say that when I have watched a video in the past, and to a lesser degree in the present but with a watchful eye, I have actually picked up many tips and ideas to make my own play more successful!! These ideas may be demeanor, they could be the pace of the spanking, or even taking the fantasy scene I have watched and then playing it out myself, and they do serve a purpose because they are played by real spankos. Here is an example, I like watching Johnny Depp films, but they would look a whole lot different if Johnny Dick was the actor!! Yes, I have no shame in saying that some ideas that I have had in my regular spanking play have come from an idea that I have watched in a spanking film.

So let’s talk about ‘REAL’ spanking and what it is that constitutes a ‘REAL’ spanking. This particular subject can really grate me from time to time because let’s be honest, WHO can determine what a real spanking is and what it isn’t? It is such a subjective topic that NOBODY can determine what is or isn’t real, it is all personally driven.

Now then, is ‘Real’ spanking the ability to beat a person with as much force as is humanly possible? The harder you hit a person being the determining factor as to how real the spanking is. Despite popular belief and claims made otherwise, of course it isn’t. Anyone can take a cane or a paddle and beat their partner senseless without cause or care to their partner’s well being. There will be a very small minority that this does constitute a real spanking, and to them it is real. Me on the other hand, I have a preference of taking a girl otk, and pretty much using my hand to spank them in an environment that is somewhat fun. That is reality to me and I make no apologies for it, in fact I am so happy with the style I employ that I will be making a whole series of videos featuring such a standard. Does that make my way the right way? Of course it doesn’t!! It is the right way for me and for anyone who I am playing with, I don’t do discipline, I do funishment. It has been that way for me since I was sixteen years old and that will always be ‘REAL’ to me. Under no circumstance does that make my ideas of spanking any less real than anybody else’s idea of what spanking is, because that is what it means to me.

Likewise, as I have mentioned before, if someone’s idea of spanking is to receive 6 love pats to a clothed bottom before having sex, then more power to them. Because that isn’t my idea of a real spanking it doesn’t mean that it isn’t real to those who practice it. Whatever your choice is, whether it be super severe or something very light, nobody has a right to dictate what is and isn’t real to you. If you like discipline where you strap your partner down and whale away with a dragon cane, or if you like a hand spanking where you laugh and giggle your way through the whole scene, it is all very much real if it is what your interpretation is of spanking.

Nobody should ever be made to feel inferior because of their style or their likes, wants and needs. It was implied in the above mentioned thread that the spankings I give are nothing more than patty cake bullshit spankings, thankfully though, after having done this for 30 years, my ego doesn’t need to be stroked and I don’t need to cane someone until they bleed to prove that I am a man. Instead of posting the videos of my videos on Spanking Tube I will just post the links and you can go there if you wish. One point I had tried to make in my comments to the above video was that the two videos that I am in on Spanking Tube are the 4th most watched video of all time (230,103 views in 92 days) and the 20th most watched video of all time (91,112 views in 26 days), so I must have been doing something right. This of course was met with some negativity and that the above video was surely going to get 2 million views. Perhaps it was a fruitless task because I wasn’t attempting to one up the other video, I was just trying to show that every person has a different take on what they thought was a good spanking video. So I didn’t embellish my point any further, but to give some credence to what I was saying, the latest Pixie’s Previews video that I feature in was uploaded the same day as the above intense video, and it has already been watched by twice as many people in the 13 days it has been up.

4th most watched clip on Spanking Tube Richard Windsor and Audrey Knight

20th most watched clip on Spanking Tube My Christmas Montage

And already 48th most watched in 13 days Pixie’s Previews

So the bottom line on that subject, determine what you believe is the correct approach to the spanking lifestyle for you and stick to it. You should never be made to feel less of a spanker or spankee because someone can give or take more than you can, or should I say is willing to do that. I think we can pretty much all hit with full force if that is what we desired.

When it comes to meeting for fellow spanking enthusiasts, I think that it is the Top that needs to be more aware of finding someone compatible to their likes than the other way around, especially if the spankee’s level of play is less than your own level of severity in spanking play. Of course it is important all the way around, but I think it is a darn sight easier for someone to request that the spanking be taken up a notch than it is for someone to request it being taken down a notch.

I also understand that what I have written above doesn’t account for the competitive Machoness that some guys possess, the desire to be better than everyone else. That of course comes down to what guys ‘Think’ it is that makes them better, not necessarily what it is that makes them better!! I have witnessed in person many a man spank a woman a darn sight harder than I have, yet at the same time I have also had women flock to me because I do not spank that hard. Which one is right? Neither of course, it is all about what it is that you want, and I think that it needs people like me to put it out there that it is okay to have your own personal wants and desires in the spanking world.

Be yourself when seeking likeminded people, if anyone gives you shit for saying that the way someone else plays is not the right way, send them to the old pup 😉 You should be able to voice your own opinions as to what it is that you seek, as I do. Many a time I will have people write to me telling me that they require discipline and structure in their life, yet they have a hard time understanding  that because I have neither of those in my life, I wouldn’t feel comfortable dictating that to someone else. Quite simply, I enjoy spanking for the enjoyment that it brings me, whether it be a funishment session, a role-play, or just simply a spanking because someone likes to get spanked (My personal favorite) it is all good to me. I don’t do discipline and I’m quite proud to announce that. There are many people who do and there are plenty of people to look up to seek that, what comes as a surprise to a lot of the ego strokers though is that there are a lot of women who don’t want the discipline, they just want to be spanked. Don’t believe me, I have dozens upon dozens of examples from firsthand experience that I could share with you 😉 Make spanking what it is for you and don’t be embarrassed about it, there is always someone out there who has the same likes and desires that you do.

Now guys, I had planned to also address the issue of spankee’s and their weight, whether that be big or small, but I got a little carried away with the above post so I will do a second part to this topic later on, probably next weekend. Feel free to leave your feedback, it is all welcome. Just be careful though, if you post as yourself and then get all pissy because you can’t handle the replies, just remember that I can see all the IP addresses and I won’t be afraid to out people. 🙂

Richard Windsor