Nothing more, nothing less, spanking is what I do and what I do the best.

There are so many titles out there that I wonder if people feel that they have to live up to the title they have acquired. I’m not here to knock any one’s style of play, whatever works for you the more power to you, but I am here to defend my style of play.

ADS seems to run rampant on bulletin boards and comments posted to videos, ADS stands for Almighty Dom/Domme Syndrome. Just go to spanking tube and watch any video that is of either the lighter fare, or even playful in nature, and there will be a stream of comments demeaning the level of play. Heck, I have even been at a party where I was spanking someone and a guy came up to me and said “You’re hitting like a pansy”. So let me make this bold statement directed towards armchair spankobacks, NEVER tell someone else how they should play!! For starters, you do not know the level of the girl being spanked, secondly, you do not know my level (yes, even tops have levels that they are comfortable at), and lastly, you do not know how the two of us play together, which is probably the most important part. In the situation above there was one thought that went through my mind, and it was this, “Do you REALLY want to know how hard I can hit?”

Now I will never let something like that pass and I made certain that I expressed my point towards this gentleman, the funny thing was, not long after that I was talking to my good friend, Sarah Thorne, and I was relaying my anger to her over the incident and we happened to be looking at this guy. He was literally leaving his feet to give someone a standing spanking, almost as if it was going through his mind that the spankee will feel less of him if he didn’t make absolutely sure that he was hitting her as hard as was humanly possible.

When I read comments on videos stating the same thing that someone is not hitting hard enough, or they would “Peel the skin” off that ass, I can’t help but become amused. A lot of that comes from the fact that there are players, and then there are watchers.

I don’t want to get too sidetracked though and deviate from the topic at hand, though I am good at that. As an example, the thought on my mind right now is that someone is completely opposed to women being demeaned and disrespected, and he has stated as much on this very blog after I posted an excellent video. Yet if you go to his blog you will see hundreds of pictures of women on all fours displaying up close their vagina’s and anuses, even to a point that a number of them have some guy sticking his finger in the woman’s anus. Now then, I’m not knocking what the person posts, but I do however wonder what the definition of being demeaned and disrespected is. 🙂

That of course leads me into my topic. Our lifestyle has many different aspects to it, and many different people who practice those different aspects. It is perhaps the biggest pet peeve that I have in the spanking lifestyle, and that peeve is someone having the nerve to tell another person what they should enjoy. I’m all for a healthy discussion talking about the merits of each style, but I am also totally opposed to dictating how someone should enjoy their aspect of our lifestyle.

The criteria I always use is this, if two people want to dress up in raincoats and spanking each other with wet fish, then fair play to them. From a novelty standpoint I would probably watch it, but I have a feeling it would be a one time viewing. Going further though, and more realistically, if you have a spanking fetish, who are you to judge how someone else plays? In the time I have ran this blog I have heard it from all sides as to what people want to see, I’ve had my picture selection choices critiqued ad nauseum with people telling me what the viewers want to see, my writing style has been attacked, and while you guys will never see this, but I have also had my character attacked. That is like water off a ducks back though because I am completely comfortable with who I am, I have always followed the premise that if you don’t like what I am offering, you are free to pass it by and go and read something else. (Okay, I’m not generally as nice as the written word is, the actual thoughts that go through my mind are “Alright, if you don’t like it then fuck off” :-))

That brings me to who I am and the paragraph above makes me ponder if I have in fact hit the nail on the head. I make no bones about the way I play, I don’t do domestic discipline, I don’t do punishment, I like to spank girls, simple as that. To me spanking is about fun and a light hearted spirit, it actually doesn’t matter whether it is a hard spanking or a light one. I’m always self deprecating enough that I go along with the running joke that I have a noodle arm, but of course any girl that has had a proper spanking from me knows that is not the case. Why am I okay with it? Because I am comfortable enough in my own skin, I have nothing to prove to nobody. I don’t need to beat someone black and blue with a paddle to show that I don’t have a noodle arm, if people want to think that about me then let them. Only the girls will suffer, because if that is what they are thinking when they go over my lap then they will probably get a little surprise 😉

Whatever works for you, go for it. There is no such thing as a light spanking not being a proper spanking, because to describe what a proper spanking is would be putting a criteria on a subject that has no written criteria. If someones idea of a proper spanking is to get two minutes over a clothed bottom, that is no less important than someone whose tolerance is to be able to take a hundred strokes of the cane on the bare, it still affects each individual the same as to what they consider is the ideal situation for them.

My idea of spanking is fun, playful, erotic, full of banter and a good time shared between two friends. I have given someone 100 hard strokes with a thick belt, and I have spanked someone playfully over the knee for 2 hours with lots of teasing and playing, neither one was any more important than the other, both the girls and myself got what we wanted from the session. So don’t let anyone tell you what is the proper way for a spanking to be given, only you decide what it is that works for you. I can step into a character and play a full role play funishment scenario, but I am equally as comfortable giving a girl a playful bottom warming if that is what she is after. In my mind 90% of a spanking session is psychological, how you apply that psychology is where it differentiates. A person’s headspace is just that, an individual feeling, some folks get off giving submission, while some folks idea of headspace is to be able to relax and thoroughly enjoy the spanking they are getting, who are we to decide what is right and what is wrong?

Finally, and to emphasize my point, this video that I did with Audrey Knight has been watched over 600,000 times on spanking tube, and it is nothing more than a cutesy, fun roleplay between two friends. There is no serious spanking involved, but I don’t think that it can be denied that there is a certain chemistry that the two players involved have. Despite there being a supposed definition of what an actual spanking is, I think it is quite telling that this video is the number 5 most watched video of all time on spanking tube. Obviously it has struck a chord to a lot of spanking enthusiasts to have been watched over half a million times, perhaps there are more people out there who like to have fun spanking than we are prepared to acknowledge.

Just to emphasize the point, this fun video that Caroline Grey and myself did has been watched 400,000 times and is in the top ten most watched of all time on spanking tube. Perhaps there is something to be said about two friends having a spanking good time. 🙂