Vegas Bound

It has arrived so quickly that I have hardly had time to get excited about it,  but the Shadowlane party is just a few days away. Well,  the party itself is next weekend,  but I will be getting there midweek to spend some quality time with friends before the party starts in earnest.   The break from online activity has rejuvenated me a bit,  sometimes we all need to step back a bit and clear our heads. There was a lot of things going on online that started to have me thinking negatively about the scene in general. It’s not like I am going anywhere,  I am a born spanko and this blog will always be around,  but I started to cut back a bit on the other blogs,  perhaps updating the vintage blog  once a week and leaving the spanking pics blog as an archive for now. When I get the time I will pre-post a bunch of posts on the spanking pics blog  and let it run on its own for a while.

Of course as I have mentioned several times already,  I also have a little hobby away from spanking that has been especially pleasing. The Mary Pickford blog  I have preset with posts for a year already,  so that one doesn’t need to be touched as it will update itself. Then I have the two other vanilla projects,  the Vintage Americana  picture blog and the gorgeous pinups blog. Neither of them require much time,  though I get a really big kick out of finding unique vintage pictures. We all have to accept responsibility for our own actions,  and I was finding that I was spending far too much time focusing on the negative energy that was being brought to the online spanking community so I needed to pull away from it.

There are aspects of the online spanking world that won’t change,  but I can change how I deal with them personally. There are a lot of really good people in the spanking world and those are the people that I will give my attention to. As an example,  a while back I observed someone joining my Fetlife group and clicked on the profile to check out who it was,  only to find out that the person had blocked me. Now ordinarily I wouldn’t give a hoot about that,  I’m not in the spanking world to have everyone like me,  but I was perturbed for a while that I didn’t know this person,  hadn’t interacted with them,  nor had I spoken with them in any way. It took me a while but then I realized,  what does it really matter? Perhaps they are friends with people who I have philosophical differences with,  maybe they don’t like my friends,  or heaven forbid,  they just might not like me 🙂  At the end of the day I try to be friendly with everyone,  but you can bet your bottom dollar that if I am going to a spanking party I want to know who doesn’t care for me,  that way I won’t have to waste any time going out of my way to be friendly. At the end of the day it isn’t important,  not when there are so many people who are important.

On that subject,  with Shadowlane coming up,  I feel that I should share my opinions about handling a spanking party and how one should conduct ones self. Now of course everyone will have their own view on this,  but this is my take.

It should come as no surprise that even though I have the nickname,  The Ultra Popular Top,  not everyone likes me,  and I can assure you that I don’t like everyone either. The thing that is important in my eye is how you handle that at a spanking party. Nobody should be naive enough to think that everyone at a spanking party will like everyone else there. Spanking parties are just like the community as a whole,  there will always be the human emotions that manifest themselves.

Here is the deal though,  people go to spanking parties to enjoy themselves. This may come as a shock,  but absolutely no one wants to have to deal with someone else’s shit at a spanking party. Most of us pay a pretty penny to attend a party,  in fact the Shadowlane one all told will cost me the best part of a grand once you take into account the flight,  the hotel and the party fee. I’ll be quite frank with you,  I’m not dishing out that type of money to deal with someone else’s baggage.

Let me use myself as an example to avoid any paranoia. There are situations that have happened over the many years in the spanking scene that have made me very angry,  the thing is though,  a spanking party is NOT the place for those feelings to manifest themselves. As with any spanking party there will be people there who have rubbed me the wrong way,  and to be fair about it there are probably people who will attend who I have rubbed the wrong way over time as well. The only way that should be handled should be for the benefit of everyone else who is attending,  be polite,  cordial,  and do whatever you can to avoid confrontation. I find as a guy that when it comes to other guys situations are easy to avoid,  you simply be polite,  hold your tongue,  and move on. It is a little harder for me with members of the opposite sex because I never want to offend anyone,  though I also wish to maintain my own set principals. Once more though I try my hardest to maintain politeness and avoid any issue that may be on my mind. It is especially hard if you are in a group setting and you are involved in some activity where you don’t wish to play with someone,  but the situation is such that you may have to in a playful setting. This is where the old British stiff upper lip comes in,  you simply suck it up and do what you have to do to keep the peace for everyone who is present.

Yeah,  that may shock you,  but I don’t wish to play with anyone in a skirt. 99% of them perhaps,  lol,  but there are a few circumstances where I don’t wish to. I’m normally very good at avoiding any issue coming up,  as I said before,  be polite,  respectful,  and maintain your own boundaries. The bottom line to all of this is leave your own baggage at the door,  nobody wants to hear your shit,  nobody wants to have to deal with your shit,  it yours,  own it and live with it. Even those people who I have little time for will not hear about it at a party,  that is grossly unfair to anyone else who has paid their own hard earned money to get away and have a good time. Try the route of being polite and cordial,  suck it up a bit. It isn’t for your benefit to do so,  it is for the benefit of everyone else who will be at the party.

I’m really excited that so many of my friends will be in Vegas,  my friends will all be there and of course I will be spending quite a bit of time with them. Other friends from the SSC,  the FMS party and long time scene friends will also be there. Part of the problem of taking a break from the online world though is that I am not sure exactly who is and who isn’t going,  there are certainly people who I hope are going who I haven’t spoken to for a while. Two of my girls,  Sara Fields and Aurora are two of the  people who I haven’t spoken to in a while who I hope are going. I can’t go to a spanking party and not have Aurora around to hug every 5 minutes 🙂

There are people who I know are going but it really isn’t my business to publicly share that information,  that is their business. Beth Eisley  has already blogged that she is going so I think it is safe to mention her,  and being that I just read that she will also be there when I arrive on Wednesday then this mention could well be worth it.

Back at the FMS party I took Beth to spanking court for calling me a pervert in front of a group of people. Now was it court worthy? Of course it wasn’t,  but I had also heard Beth say over the weekend that she had never had a case in spanking court and it was my way of involving her. So much for being a nice guy huh,  I lost and now I owe her 15 minutes worth of personal service. I’m hoping that she has a 15 minute spanking in mind as her personal service,  I mean,  it is a spanking party after all. Or perhaps she will be like Parttimelondoner and milk 45 minutes out it 🙂  I’m an honorable guy though,  I will provide the service without complaint,  though I also believe in honesty,  there will be a part of me that will seek her out for kangaroo court justice 😉  All in good fun though,  I love playing with Beth and I hope that at some point over the weekend that she gives me the honor of a fun play session,  she is a great girl to play with. Come to think of it,  now that I have mentioned PTL,  I’m sure she is owed a good spanking as well.

Of course I will have my cameras with me,  but I’m not planning any shoots exactly,  they will just be there should someone wish to do a fun video with me. All pics in this post are recent Ebay finds,  just punch in the keyword spanking and you should find them 🙂

4 thoughts on “Vegas Bound

  1. I agree with your stance on focusing on having fun, getting to spend some quality time with friends, and letting the play fall where it may. Most of us have some baggage and things going on at any given time but nobody wants to be around a downer all weekend.

    A few months ago, I attended a party shortly after starting the process of divorce. I let most people I talk to more frequently know in advance to get it out on the table. I didn’t want to be asked 50 times over the weekend “How’s your husband?” and explain over and over, putting myself and others in an awkward situation.

    For the most part it didn’t come up. A few friends talked to me privately to tell me that they didn’t want to make me uncomfortable or bring things up that I didn’t want to talk about, but were just letting me know that they cared and were there for me. I appreciated that.

    I think there is a time and place for things. Serious personal conversations in front of a large group aren’t one of those times. There are a lot of great people in this scene though and I’m happy to call some of them friends. This will be my first Shadow Lane and I’m quite nervous but so far the people seem to be a friendly bunch. Hope I get a chance to say hello. I’ll look for the big cowboy hat. 😉

  2. Enjoy and my regards to Eve Howard, she is a true trail blazer for some many of us in my generation, her Stand Corrected editorials when she first published made me and many of us understand that spanking and even panty spanking kink was OK and normal. She is an amazing lady; my life does not lead me to attend but I so respect Eve and her folks.
    Enjoy
    Ron

  3. “she is owed a good spanking as well.”

    HEY! I RESEMBLE THAT REMARK!

    😛 I’ll milk a 45-minute hug out of a 15-minute personal service gig any day. I’m in the airport right now getting ready to go to my first Shadowlane. This is a bit like the great barrier forme, as I have always been a little scared of this one. I very purposefully stayed away until I had a good bunch of scene friends. I’m not down for ANYONE’s BS, and as well all know, it takes two to tango.

    Also, I brought headphones.

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