There is no question that what I have for you today are only thoughts and prose. Like always though, feel free to share your own thoughts, feelings and opinions.

Yesterday I received one of the best emails that I have received to date. There was a lady who, if my arithmetic is correct, has not been spanked as an adult since she was a young woman, about 40 years ago. This lady had written to me to let me know that she had watched the interview that I had done with Dana Specht, and after having watched it she was able to contact Dana to arrange a meeting. Her email to me was to thank me for the interview as it helped her to decide to go through with her decision. When I look back at my own legacy in the spanking world, I have a feeling that is something that I will remember. Anyone who knows me should know what that means of course, yep, the old cog wheels in the head started to turn.

It is yet another thing that I spend a good portion of time thinking about, are we better off for not having had the Internet when we grew up for a great many of us older folks, as compared to those who have the spanking world at their fingertips nowadays?

When I weigh the pros and cons I actually think that I am better off not having had the Internet when I first started out. At the grand old age of 48 I remember all too well what I was like when I was a younger man, and that clearly would not have been something that would have translated to the online world very well.

The thing that sticks out the most to me is the mistakes that I made in the past. Back then, aside from Chinese whispers, you could perhaps be forgiven for errors that you committed. What we had as youngsters though, today’s younger generation does not have that luxury. Whatever is put online is there for good and anyone can stumble upon it at any time. Seriously, you can go back years and observe how people have grown, however, their initial postings are still online. The old newsgroups are archived and as they are now owned by Google, it is even easier to stumble across archived material.

That is something that I think those of us who are older, and perhaps wiser, were fortunate enough to escape. I was no different than today’s younger generation when I was a young man, anytime that one of my older peers tried to guide me, I thought that I ruled the world and I knew better than anyone. Of course you would have to be older to understand how foolish we all may have been in our youth. In fact I would shudder if my own past mistakes were online somewhere for all to see, yet another benefit that those of us who are older now have an advantage over the younger generation. Part of that growing process though is learning through your mistakes with the minimum of damage caused, which I don’t think that the younger generation has right now. If I could only tell people “Whatever you put online now will be there for decades. It is one reason why I am hesitant to throw stones, because my own glasshouse has easily breakable windows.

That leads me into another thought and it is something that has been discussed many times. Because of the Internet, the younger generation has the opportunity to develop their businesses through self-promotion. Even though that would not have been available to those of us who are older now when we were young, for some of us we also use the opportunities that the Internet provides today and we create our own persona to market.

Now the difference that is often spoken about when this topic comes up is that those of us who are older have made the decision through years of experience that this is something we want to do. There always seems to be a fear that the younger generation are putting themselves out there without fully understanding the long term ramifications of what they are doing. Now I’m not one of those people, but I have seen it mentioned many times. Indeed, for those people who were entrepreneurs prior to the days of the Internet, I think even then they had an advantage. While a younger person may have more opportunities open to them nowadays, they also have to see the hate which is something that a model in the 1980’s would probably not have had to deal with.

As was mentioned on “The Spanking World” last week, and is something that I have referred to often, are the nasty comments that were left on spanking tube. It isn’t just the comments that were directed towards one person, I have had the same comments posted on my own videos constantly, and it really bothers me that people can be so spiteful and hateful.

It is a different world now to the one that I grew up in. Back in my day, if someone talked shit about you then you eventually got to meet up with the person. At that point they either shut the fuck up or you threw them down and sorted it out the old fashioned way. People don’t have that luxury anymore, we now have the Internet where those of a vicious nature can use the powers at their fingertips to share their spite. No longer can you sort it out on a one to one basis, now you have to deal with shitstirrers stoking the fire, and the fire never dies down. Just read above what I was saying about any comment that anyone ever posted being archived. Is the younger generation better off now that they have the Internet, or were we better off without the Internet when we were allowed to grow as individuals?

A lot of this pondering comes from an observation that I have. Now my observations and opinions aren’t necessarily correct, they are just things that I notice when it comes to the younger generation. Now this might bring up some ill feelings, I anticipate that, but I observe a lot of bad reactions towards the younger generation and quite honestly, I don’t always think that they are fair.

If it is a girl then the obvious comes up, especially if she is young, cute and pretty. That’s 3 strikes against her already, so unless she is Mother Theresa she is probably going to have a harder time than most. It is a topic that has been discussed ad nauseam, especially in regards to spanking parties. One thing that I don’t do myself though is put that onto the young girls, if there IS a problem in that area, then it would be with the guys fawning over them, not the girls themselves. It may not be a popular stance that I have, but I am open and honest about it. There is an appeal that a young cute girl brings to a spanking session, a fantasy that no one should ever be made to feel bad about. It would be no different if there was a stud fireman and every woman wanted to play with him. I’m not even sure if it is a misconception, just a lack of understanding, but everyone has fantasies and the model types fulfill just ONE, and I need to emphasize that, they fill just one aspect of a fantasy. There may be other things that they bring of course depending on the girl. There will be some guys who only surround themselves with young pretty girls, and at that point I can understand why there will be some ill feelings and spite felt. Of course, before anyone can define that, one has to define what the term ‘Pretty’ means to them, and nine times out of ten that definition has nothing to do with one’s physical appearance, just food for thought.

The young guys have it no easier though. Guys have this whole territorial thing going on, and a young, brash, outgoing guy is likely to step upon that. Perhaps the biggest feeling is one of “That young punk doesn’t know shit” and even the tiniest of errors are seized upon. Just like the young girls, the young guys don’t stand a chance. For every mature person who tries to provide guidance and direction, another will be waiting for a person to make a mistake so that they can pounce upon them. It isn’t fair, but the world is different today than when I grew up.

What it comes down to is security, if you are secure within yourself then you look to provide guidance to the younger generation. When I look at the younger guys in the scene I don’t have spite towards them, I’m secure enough within myself to know what I can bring to the table, and let’s be really honest here, I’m not exactly Clark Gable in the looks department, I’m more like Elton John. I think most people have a mindset for what it is that they are looking for when it comes to spanking, and I can only speak for myself here, but a person’s looks are WAY down the list for what I look for. It is how a person conduct’s one’s self, how they portray their personality, how we blend as a couple.

Quite often I have been criticized for what I like in a woman, the femininity, the persona, the playfulness, the submissive part, the frills and cuteness. At no point have I ever said that is how it SHOULD be, all I have ever said is that is what works for me. If a girl was looking for a tall handsome stranger who wore a suit and tie all the time, well this short, stubby, casual dressed man wouldn’t be for you, but I wouldn’t deny you wanting to get what it is that you wanted. I understand the power of fantasies in the spanking world and no matter what it is that works for you, you should be free to seek it out without fear of reprisal.

Oh, and one final thing for today because I am feeling melancholy, post something nice on one of your friend’s walls. A person’s words are very powerful, so why not use them today and try to make someone feel good about themselves?