I am a 58 year old Englishman currently living in New York City with a penchant for spanking and Rockabilly music. Since coming out in the scene I have been fortunate enough to work with some wonderful people, though just having a name in the scene is of little importance to me.
One area that I take great pride in and has been mentioned about me many times by others, is that I am an open an honest individual. It can be difficult to walk the line between honesty and being rude, but I like to think that my casual approach wins over.
What is it that I seek in a partner?
In a nutshell I am an out and out spanker, I prefer playful and fun over serious and discipline. One area that confuses people is that they automatically assume playful and fun is a light spanking, that is far from the truth. The “atmosphere” is playful and fun, the spanking itself is still the same as it would be elsewhere.
Over the years I have taken part in many roleplays, from Teacher to Uncle to Santa, I have even played the roles of Hagrid and the Big Bad Wolf on film 🙂 The discipline side is still something that I work on, I have explored it to some degree but I prefer “Funishment” where I can play a role as opposed to being a disciplinarian. Each case is based on its own merit and I would never say that I would never be in a D/D relationship, but the chances are that I won’t.
Overall I am still the playful guy, but I have started to tap into my dark side 😉
Aesthetics play an important role in my scenes, there are certain things that I prefer my spankee to wear that enhances my enjoyment of the scene. Very few tops point out what it is that they want from a scene, I have no such issues requesting what it is that will improve my scene. What a top gets out of spanking is as important as what a bottom gets out of it. It is as simple as a skirt and nylon panties, but it can be a world of difference to a top. The feedback that I get from women is that they get little feedback from a man when it comes to what they like, I’m very different in that area, I will gladly tell you what I like.
A girl with a smart mouth and a sassy attitude is something that I enjoy, as is a young lady of a submissive demeanor. I’m not one for bratting at all though. Something playful and cute can be a lot of fun if it is designed to get a girl a spanking, constant annoyance with childish behavior though is the antithesis of fun for me. Please don’t misread that, I LOVE fun and playful girls, I just don’t like excess.
What I am looking for.
It is cliche to say, but the looks of an individual are far less important than the emotional connection that we make. A person’s attitude is of high importance to me however. I prefer fun loving, caring individuals. Drama Queens can stay out of my life. It is something that I don’t think I see said too much, but I prefer a sweet girl over an abrasive one, someone who views life in a positive manner. Yes, that is VERY important to me. We all have down moments in our life and we all need someone to share that with, I understand and respect that. One of the biggest turn offs to me though is constant negativity, I just can’t handle that. I’m very old school in that manner, it is ingrained in me that when something bad happens to you, you suck it up and you deal with it!!
Like I said, we all have things that will get us down and we will want to share that, but when it is one thing after another after another, the ‘Debbie Downer’ syndrome as I call it, that is an approach to life that I just cannot relate to.
Are looks important? To some degree I would say yes, they are, but it is who is defining the looks that is important. I like eccentric characters, I like girls with a pink streak in her hair or an arm full of bracelets, somebody quirky and fun loving, somebody different. It is also important to me that the girl is a kind person. I, myself, am kind by nature, and the people I like to spend the most time with are also kind individuals. It is probably the single most important thing to me, women who are kind people.
One statement that is repeated to me time and again by people wanting to play with me is this… “I’m not like the skinny girls that I see in your pics”
So let’s put that one to bed. The reason the girls in my pics are skinny is because they are paid spanking models who have no problem being seen on the Internet. Likewise, most of these pictures are also from paid assignments that I have been paid to appear in myself. They are not a reflection of who I play with overall, though you will see some of these girls play with me outside of paid assignments. The reason for that is because they are genuine people who I have befriended and whose company I enjoy. 95% of people who I have played with do not wish for their pictures to be seen, therefore no one can really interpret the type of individual I play with. Who do I play with? Just go to a party and you will see. Size has little bearing to me, it is all about the emotional connection.
What do I do aside from spanking?
It is a bit of a mixed bag really, I love studying things, whether they be history or etymology. I’m an avid fan of British TV and films and I am a lover of soccer and hockey. There is a lot to what I like, so much so that I would take up too much time writing about it. Just ask me and I will tell you 🙂
Anyway, I’m a very honest person, if you have a question feel free to ask me 🙂